This post is specially for all my blogger friends and blog readers who visit my blog and have been with me through my various experiences. I have not been blogging that much because of the blogger glitch which dampened my spirit so much, and because of the prevailing gloomy mood in the country as seen in the chain of events that smack of comic tragedy. As such, I have only put up two posts a day for the past few days.Today, I received the most number of comments in a day and I am really touched that despite the fact that I have not been blogging that much, you all still visit and read the posts. I had been surfing the net to look for the best jokes to make myself laugh and to spread some cheer in cyber space and I appreciate the responses that you all have made. You all have made a difference in my life...just when I wanted to give up, with my head hung low Tom Dooley style...the friendship developed in cyberspace and the support, sharing and comradeship during these dark times have given me the impetus and strength to always hang on to my dreams....and never to give up...I hope you all will benefit from the following post and also hang on to your dreams. Yup - I am back! Blogging mania - here I come....Have a lovely evening, dear readers!
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Some see life as a big test; others see life as something to experience, enjoy and learn from. Whatever you view life as, there is one aspect that keeps you alive and that is your dreams. Ever seen the film 'Shawshank Redemption'? Remember it, and check this out. It can literally save your life!
Life is an amazing thing. High hopes, arguments with parents, and when we are old enough we become like our parents! Round the Moon clockwise, and whether it is 1950, the year 2009 or the year 3009, pretty much we find life is same. Yes, technology changes, our lifestyles and types of jobs may change, but overall life is same.
Ever see people who moan and groan. All they can do is moan and groan. You can see that life literally was a pounding test! Recently I went through a situation which could have put me in that class. Luckily years of personal development allowed me to have a safety net. Luckily the lessons I have learned in that will enable me to help many more people.
So here it is; dreams. You see so many people fail in life because they are happily sailing along, thinking they are headed somewhere, but the road of life has a bend in the road. Instead of adjusting people smack bang into the wall. From there they get off the high way, and float. They tend to then agree with parents that life is hard, and there is no point to anything!
People give up trying. This is unfortunate but it happens in many cases. In fact it happens to everyone, after all that is life, and if you are to grow in life, you have to have a bit of stress!
The saying goes when things get tough, the tough get going. Another saying goes if it doesn't kill you it can only make you stronger!
A dream is usually something which is bigger than what we experience or we wouldn't want it. We don't see people planning for months to get a coffee, but Star Bucks did! They had to plan for months to get the idea formulated, plans worked out, finance most likely, and all the other bits to make there dream a reality. Now look at Star Bucks, they even infuriate those anti capitalists!
A dream is essential, and I learned that from King Solomon, when he said without a vision people perish. Look around and you will see this true. Without the vision people perish.
Why do they perish? Don't they have dreams? I have found that a lot of people dream, they may even try. But what happens? They try and they meet failure on first attempt, so they stop trying. Another tries a bit more, and failure after failure, they are knocked out of the game.
So few though continue, after all ignorance is bliss, and it really is bliss. Why? Because these people are the most successful, the richest, and ultimately most happy. They have worked hard, and learned how to dance through life, the result is that they are living there dream, where once it was a fond wish, a deep desire, that they worked on to manifestation, and you can to!
Author's Bio
Kozan Huseyin is a life coach who takes people from A to B, where you are to where you want and expect to get to. To design a life, you need some things. It is not just goal setting but having a vision which goals come out of. To create a vision you need a map.
To get your copy of the map visit goal setting at THIS LINK.
In case you need a laugh : Remember it takes a college degree to fly a plane but only a high school diploma to fix one.
After every flight, Qantas pilots fill out a form, called a "Gripe Sheet," which tells mechanics about problems with the aircraft. The Mechanics correct the problems, document their repairs on the form, and then Pilots review the gripe sheets before the next flight. Never let it be said that ground crews lack a sense of humor. Here are some "reported" maintenance complaints submitted by Qantas' pilots (marked with a P) and the solutions recorded (marked with an S) by Maintenance Engineers:
P: Left inside main tire almost needs replacement.
S: Almost replaced left inside main tire.
P: Test flight OK, except auto-land very rough.
S: Auto-land not installed on this aircraft.
P: Something loose in cockpit.
S: Something tightened in cockpit.
P: Dead bugs on windshield.
S: Live bugs on back-order.
P: Autopilot in altitude-hold mode produces a 200 feet per minute descent.
S: Cannot reproduce problem on ground.
P: Evidence of leak on right main landing gear.
S: Evidence removed.
P: DME volume unbelievably loud.
S: DME volume set to more believable level.
P: Friction locks cause throttle levers to stick.
S: That's what friction locks are for.
P: IFF inoperative in OFF mode.
S: IFF always inoperative in OFF mode.
P: Suspected crack in windshield.
S: Suspect you're right.
P: Number 3 engine missing.
S: Engine found on right wing after brief search.
P: Aircraft handles funny.
S: Aircraft warned to straighten up, fly right, and be serious.
P: Target radar hums.
S: Reprogrammed target radar with lyrics.
P: Mouse in cockpit.
S: Cat installed.
P: Noise coming from under instrument panel. Sounds like a midget pounding on something with a hammer.
S: Took hammer away from midget.
“I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” ~Robert McCloskey.
You can’t understand some things,
You may think you can,
But you really can’t,
Especially the why questions,
Other people’s motivations,
And the purpose of things;
There is a clever way though,
In living the answers,
And doing a few simple things—
Growing some patience,
Thinking a little differently,
Relaxing your expectations,
And extending your time frame;
In the meantime, be more generous
With your love and compassion,
For those lost in a dark tunnel,
Or stuck behind a brick wall,
Who don’t have your understanding.
~The author.
We humans do seem to have a penchant for trying to understand everything. The trouble is our brains sometimes trick us into believing we actually have an accurate and complete understanding of something, when in fact we aren’t even close, except in our belief to be so. Sometimes these certainties turn out to be very big blind spots. It isn’t that we aren’t trying hard enough to see reality clearly and completely, but rather that some realities can’t be understood, at least with the type of thinking we are accustomed to using, and within our narrow timeframe.
Consider a few fundamental questions that continually perplex us, to which we often fool ourselves into believing we have the correct answers:
• What is all this for?
• Why do bad things happen to good people?
• Where will I go when I die?
• Why is hindsight better than foresight?
• Why do we have to feel so badly before we know what real happiness is all about?
Coming to a valuable realization of the possibility that some things can’t be understood is mainly a matter of how we think and our timing. And sometimes it takes great patience to see that the main problem to all this is our impatience for quick answers to perplexing problems, the habit of which just creates the misunderstanding or worse yet, the illusion of understanding (which can oddly be the very same thing).
The problems in life that have always bothered me most are the “why” questions and the ones tempting me to try to uncover the real purpose of something, or interpreting the motivations of others, especially when they affect me so negatively and harmfully.
Since most self-talk thinking is unconscious, conscious thinking probably isn’t the way to unravel real understanding of perplexing problems in life, like our short list above. To do this, we have to make a major transformation in our consciousness, which involves a much different paradigm of time. This is what I imagine all the hullabaloo about the end of the Mayan calendar in 2012 is all about—not the end of the word, but a birth of new consciousness. But I guess I will just have to wait on that. Besides it my High School 50th reunion and it’s already on my calendar.
The clue to recognizing this transition in thinking and time, is in sensing a growing tolerance for ambiguity and tentativeness. In the end, the “certainties” that we are most sure about often turn out to be partial and incomplete uncertainties over time.
Take the example of bad things seeming to unfairly pile up on us, despite the courageous and noble effort to be a good person doing good. Going through a very dark tunnel desperately looking for the light at the end of it or trying to get past a brick wall and not getting anywhere, is a dreadful experience and probably one of the most hopeless and helpless challenges we can face in life:
• Losing a loved one unexpectedly and prematurely, especially a child or mate of 50 years.
• Becoming unemployed through no fault of your own, in your only career.
• Having a child fail miserably in life, despite your good efforts to avert that from happening.
• Being burdened by overwhelming physical pain that you can’t do anything about no matter how much time or money you spend trying to do so.
• Trying to escape virtually inescapable abuse, addiction or adultery.
Understanding why this has to happen can only happen after you get through to the light at the end of the tunnel or past your brick wall—and truly understand the meaning of, “what doesn’t kill you will make you a better person.” I am still living after getting lost in more than my fair share of dark tunnels and stuck behind plenty of brick walls of helplessness and hopelessness, so I must be becoming a better person for it.
In the meantime, about the only two viable things we can do about our dark tunnels or brick walls, are:
1. Try to view the unpleasant experience as a very tough life test to inspire your very best response to gain something valuable from the pain—something once you have it, you wouldn’t take all the gold in the world in a trade.
2. Be extra generous, kind and considerate with your love, compassion and empathy for others presently lost in a dark tunnel or stuck behind a brick wall, and not understanding it. Ironically, this may be our primary connection and purpose that turns out to be the actual understanding we are insatiably searching for. Of course I will have to adapt some tentativeness to this tentative conclusion in order to practice what I preach!
Author's Bio
William Cottringer, Ph.D. is President of Puget Sound Security in Bellevue, WA and also a business and personal success coach, sport psychologist, photographer and writer living in the mountains of North Bend. He is author of several business and self-development books, including, The Prosperity Zone, Getting More By Doing Less, You Can Have Your Cheese & Eat It Too, The Bow-Wow Secrets, Do What Matters Most.
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