Regardless, sentimental me believes that once we fall in love with someone, we never ever stop loving that person for the rest of our lives.
That is why I always tell my older son never to fall in love easily and to be careful when losing his heart to a girl and to only fall in love if he knows for sure she is the one. Impossible for teenagers but you never know....(I started dating my husband when I was 16!!!)
In 2008, I saw a photo of my boy with a university course mate. They are both music majors - my son is majoring in violin and she is a voice major. My sixth sense told me that she is a very good girl and I asked him if he had any interest in her. And he laughed it off for he was with another girl then...
Months later, after he broke up with that girl, he called me and told me that he was with that girl.
Two months ago, they broke up. And my heart broke into a million pieces.
Honestly, I do not know who cried the most - my son or me :-). And I am still crying so much as I write this post.
The reason for the break up was that she was going to Japan for her studies and would be graduating soon. At that time, my boy was busy with his band and did not spend enough time to give her the attention she deserved or needed so things changed... Also, in his free time, DOTA was a main obstacle standing between the two of them. Sighs.
At 4.am. one morning, he called me up to tell me that it was over.
I tell you, the world came to a standstill that night and things have never been the same again. We all feel as though we have lost a part of our family. My son and my whole family love her so much and always miss her.
She comes from such a lovely family and in 2008, her parents came all the way from Kelantan for my 25th wedding anniversary. Politically too, her parents and I are from the same camp :-).
Sighs.
My son told me that he will wait for her even if it takes ten years....I know how much he loves her and we all do too!
I still keep in touch with her very often via FB or Skype and will always love her and hope and pray for a miracle that perhaps the two of them will be together again. That is why I put up my post on GIVE IT WINGS.
The point that I want to make in this post is simple. When we have someone in our lives, we must treasure that person and not take him/her for granted. I just watched her graduation concert videos and she is spectacular to say the least and I know she will become famous one day!
Yes, my son lost her. A very big loss indeed. But those 1 year ten months or was it 1 year months a beautiful period for all of us. How I wish I could turn the clock back...
Love is like a rose...it has to be nurtured, watered with love, attention, tender loving care, tolerance and understanding. Without all that, love will wither away....
I know I love to put up jokes about men and women and laugh over them but the truth is, if we have someone in our lives, we really have to cherish, treasure, honor and love that person for always.
Love never dies. We can never stop loving someone once we lose our heart to them.
And whoever you are with, whoever you have married or whoever you love, really love them with all you have, who you are, all you can give.
Some things are not meant to be...but we can treasure the memories, the moments and know that deep in our hearts....love never dies and will live on...I know we will always love her.
Here she is singing one of my FAVOURITE songs by Edith Piaf : La Vie En Rose in her graduation concert last week.
We love you, dearie!! And we are so proud of you...Sometimes, things are not meant to be but we can always hope for miracles while treasuring those memories. You have a very special place in our hearts and we will always love you!!!
Anonymous Dear MWS,
Parents must never carry their children's school bags...and I'm sure you understand this symbolic significance.
~wits0~