I REFER to “12-year-old raped by brother on mum’s orders” (The Star, Jan 18). It’s a life that could be described as “hell”.
Some memories aren’t going to be erased, even after years, and a 20-year jail term for rape will be no benefit at all to her. I understand she is 26 this year. And I really hope that she can put the past behind her, and start a new life.
I believe she is not the only one to suffer this kind of ordeal. From what I have observed, children from broken families either turn out to be successful or become involved in drugs, blaming their past.
I can empathise with the victim to some extent. Let me share my story. I am 27, and no matter how old you are you can’t forget your childhood.
I was a victim of physical and sexual abuse by my father for three years. He hit me the whole night until I could barely walk a few steps.
There’s more to that but to make it short, after three years of “hell”, he was taken away, leaving my mother to raise her children alone.
Life was tough. I could live life blaming my family and my past, but I refused. Memories are never erased.
I began work life with a three-day job, earning RM100 plus, then RM500 a month, and from there slowly getting paid more, until I once earned RM6,500 a month. That job had nothing to do with anything illegal or selling my body.
All I can say is I worked really hard. And if one works really hard, God will never disappoint you. I currently hold a Masters, and will be starting my doctoral studies soon.
I financed everything myself through my hard work, no matter how tough life was. I have currently saved enough to fully finance myself for my PhD.
God willing, if my applications are successful, I will go overseas to do it.
I still have not purchased a house, but I am determined to own one very soon.
I plan to be a millionaire in five years’ time, to start my own business, and to give back to society, helping the young and poor.
Everything I have I earned through hard work. I am never going to be the same little girl I once was, not having the chance to be brought up in a happy family and growing up normally.
To that 12-year-old girl victim, I just want to say, your life is dictated by you and not by your past. God loves you dearly.
TO HELL AND BACK,
Cheras.
6 comments to To Hell and Back
-
modernlifeisrubbish Dear MWS,
Sometimes i'm not sure if people were put into life's circumstances. If so, could it be that it was meant as a lesson for them to learn? Life is an endless learning experience and we are all here to learn.
The writer had apparently understood the lesson and is ready to move on with her life, but sadly not many unfortunate souls are able to do so.
A old song was playing on the radio while driving back from work today. One of the lines in the song struck me and reminds me of this post of yours.
-
Anonymous The beauty or ugliness of the childhood remains BUT when one passes the golden 5, events of the past week or even some days back can be difficult to be recalled.
I wish the writer of this story all the choices blessing and may her dreams be fulfiled in this lifetime. A million in 5 years time won't be sufficient to keep her till old age in view of our shrinking Ringgit and the ever increasing prices of most items.
Realistically, a million in 5 years from now and using that million to generate more millions in order to retire comfortably with spares to do good works.
An average link house in middle class area is already touching 500K and at the rate this nation is bouncing about, it won't be long before we join the third world countries out there where 90% of the populace are living below the middle income level. Unless we take the trouble to checkmate the current regime and liberate this nation from spiralling into a failed nation.
~ahoo~
-
Unknown Dear frags
Great to hear from you again! Yes, I do admire her perseverance and persistence but am a bit taken aback with her er...idealism and pursuit of success in the eyes of the world. Still, she is an inspiration to those in similar predicaments.
Take care and do keep in touch.
Peace be unto you always.
-
Unknown Dear Joshua
Letting go of the past is not an easy thing to do. Some spend the greater part of their life running away from ghosts from the past while others just don't want to let go for fear of what might happen.
Thank you so much for thinking far and deep about the issues raised in this post.
May you continue to be an inspiration to those around you. Take care and do keep in touch.
Cheers
-
Unknown Dear ahoo
Many thanks for your kind and fatherly encouragement and advice for the writer of the letter. Thanks also for your pragmatic response with regards to property prices and how it may become an elusive dream for some to own a house.
Take care and have a blessed week. Am so grateful and thankful for your input always.
Shalom
frags That's some determination she has there. Although the millionaire bit was a bit, 'idealistic'.