Let's consider our reaction when watching romantic movies. I tend to get teary and deeply moved by those types of films. I cried my eyes out when watching my favorite movie, Cinema Paradiso, and know that movie producers are well aware of the gamut of emotions that we go through when thinking about love.
Think about our behavior in a relationship. Very often, we get upset when our partner doesn’t do what we want, when you we want it, with us first and foremost in their mind. Many quarrels can happen when your partner doesn’t see things our way, or when they make plans that don’t revolve around us. The worst cases I have seen would be how some try to control them and make them behave the way they want them to behave, even how they dress and talk.
With Valentine's Day round the corner, I thought it worthwhile to consider our core beliefs about love. At my age, I have come to realize that no one can make us happy, solve our problems or entertain us when we are sad. Unhappiness could be due to the lack of self-love and the tendency to look for love and comfort externally. Successful relationships in life are those between happy and fulfilled people who selflessly share their lives with their partner, to whom they can unreservedly express their love with no conditions attached.
Love is not a state of neediness where we look for a partner to save us from boredom or to complete us in some way. Truly, if we cannot love ourselves, it’s unlikely that someone else is going to love us. There is a likelihood that some may take advantage of us if they know we are in a needy state. If we love ourselves completely and fully then our partners will follow suit.
As Valentine's Day approaches, I believe that the best gift we can give ourselves would be to honor, respect and love ourselves fully regardless of whether we have a partner now or never. We are complete and whole beings and we should live our lives to express our love without focusing on hunting for love. Let us enjoy the best Valentine’s Day by celebrating ourselves and our expression of unconditional love for our loved ones with joy, energy and vigor - no questions asked about what's the gift, where's the dinner or any other insignificant questions. What matters is love and the now of the moment.
Celebrate life today and always! Enjoy the following video clip by The Marmalade - Reflections of My Life. Have a nice day!
stephen OK the cynic writing here.What is love? Other than sexual attraction, which is the basic instinct,to most it has to be the element of physical attraction.You don't see nerdy joes or plain janes on the cover of barbara cartland novels that women swoon over.Neither do you dream of your hunk riding a donkey!
So,what is physical attraction?-its nature's way of ensuring that healthy individuals mate and their offspring will be without any deformities.It's been proven that when a woman is ovulating, she is attracted to alpha males.That is how nature makes it.
When man evolved gradually and our thinking skills improved,we can reason beyond those animal instincts and keep them in check.
Now,we throw in commitment,financial security,companionship and mental stimulation into the equation.Teens confuse physical and sexual attraction and place them on a higher plane than the other prerequisites.
As we mature and more blood gushes up north(!),we are able to reason out and put a more balanced perspective on love.
So what is this thing called love? It is a mix of animal instincts and complex emotions in varying ratios depending on gender,age and occasion.
To the diehard love addict- it is never having to say you're sorry?!!
Finally, what is matrimony? The secret is unveiled when you break the single word into three- matter of money!!