WHEN THINGS SEEM TO FALL APART, GO PLACIDLY...

Posted by Unknown On Sunday, February 28, 2010 44 comments
Life is not an easy journey and it requires sheer grit, perseverance, patience and the right attitude to last the journey. Rather than succumbing to the pessimism of circumstances, we should find strength from above and within us, even from each other that we can last the journey to realize our dreams. Often times, I derive much inspiration and satisfaction by reading inspirational poems or listening to classical/instrumental music that can surely soothe my nerves. One of them would be Desiderata (in Latin, it means "things desired"), written by Max Ehrmann.



Few know that this man who wrote such beautiful poetry actually suffered many disappointments in life. But he remained steadfast and contented towards the end of his life.

Max Ehrmann (1872 – 1945) was born in Terre Haute, Indiana to a German family. He received two degrees, in English at De Pauww University and in philosophy from Harvard. It was during these years that he decided not to become rich but to write beautiful books instead.

Ehrmann published six books but could not make a living out of these works. So for the next two years he went on to be an attorney. After a frustrating career, he joined his family's meat packing business and had also joined the clothing industry.

Considered a national treasure, Max Ehrmann married only months before his death. Eventually it was his widow who published some of his books and wrote his biography.

His most famous poems are Desiderata and A Prayer. Unfortunately, Desiderata only went famous after his death. I am sure many of you are familiar with this poem, but be inspired once again by the wisdom, strength and beauty of the words written by a man who lived by what he wrote.

DESIDERATA

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.

Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.

Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.

You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

Written by Max Ehrmann

Do leave a comment if you wish to share your thoughts. I am a bit tied up this evening and may not be able to release/respond to comments immediately. Thanks for your patience and understanding in this matter. Have a lovely evening!


44 comments to WHEN THINGS SEEM TO FALL APART, GO PLACIDLY...

  1. says:

    Anonymous To encounter this moment,
    we were born on the Earth.
    Therefore, whatever difficulties may arise,
    we must never retreat an inch,
    while creating a memorable history
    on our stage of mission.

  1. says:

    A Single Vote Ma’am,

    Allow me to draw strength from a weakness.

    News of the defection of some of the Permatang Pauh PKR youths clearly shows that at least there are some people who are working, even if its sadly 'them'. I am impressed. Shame on us for waiting for them to take the initiative then only we start fire fighting.

    I am happy too that, finally a decision has been made by the youths, (very nearly our future leaders), thank you BN, they are all yours. It has taken them long enough too, two years of sitting on their hands while waiting for the world to provide for them. Should we not be impressed with their patience? Pride would have gotten the better of many a people.

    “The youth wing had not received any allocation from the party to organize events for the people. What has PKR done for us here?” asked the deputy youth CHIEF. Can I assume that ‘allocation’ means monetary allocation and that they were not talking about a lack of moral support, encouragement, time, counseling and guidance that our youths would need constantly to help them along to face the world. If the reasons were these, then surely they are picking the wrong people to assist them.

    I recall a friend, our office boy at that time, who’s sister was left to fend for herself and three young children when the “tak guna punya lelaki’ husband left them with nothing, all for a younger woman. She quickly picked up their collapsible dining table and with her cooking gas and utensils started to goreng pisang/ubi by the roadside, and today, five years later, she is a proud home owner with loving appreciative ones. Ask her how she managed and she would thank the Lord for no enforcement officers troubling her little roadside stall. That and a whole lot of hard work together with anak2 tolong lah, none older than 10 years old, each holding their own in helping poor mak bring in the ‘allocation’.

    The youths of Permatang Pauh can do well to learn from the oldest, now a 15 year old girl with the guts and resilience of more than that of many a youth put together. Perhaps too they can borrow some pride from her. She may just show them where and how they can get their allocations as opposed to begging.

    If the youths were originally from that party, we would have understood. I feel sick to the stomach that that party’s curse of ‘the world owes me a living malaise’ is now part of our culture.


    PKR, lets look on the bright side, your youths are crying out for help. Even if it’s the wrong kind of ‘help’. Let that wake you from your slumber. Your supporters are waiting and watching. It would be too late then when you see them voting the alternative. Can we take some initiative to make things happen? Do something. Please.

  1. says:

    ndhaniya Dear Ms Khoo,

    This beautiful poem has been a guiding reminder for some years now since i found it in a poetry book at the age of 8, and I don't think Ehrmann could have put it any clearly or more simply. I think that all of us need to be told at some point that it's alright to take a deep breath and step back to look at our lives. Thank you for putting this up, it was strangely just what I needed to find today :)
    Hope you are well, do take care of yourself.

    Much love

  1. says:

    Jack2 The longest part of our journey begins with the first step.

  1. says:

    Chester Khuan Thanks for the poem. I have been looking for it high and low ever since reading it in Reader's Digest when I was a kid. I can't find it cause I've forgotten the title and author. Thanks once again. I will treasure it from now on.

  1. says:

    Village Boy Life is a struggle. It's through that we become strong and find our way to happiness.
    The important thing is that we create something of value and that we create unforgettable memories.

  1. says:

    Village Boy "If you don't know where you are going, any road will get you there."

    ~~ Lewis Carroll

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear Anon @ 6.42 p.m.

    Thank you very much for this very inspiring and encouraging message that you have shared here. Steadfastness in our cause is of utmost importance if we want to achieve any progress at all.

    Take care and thanks for sharing.

    Please keep in touch. I would love to hear from you again.

    Cheers

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear A Single Vote

    Thank you for sharing straight from your heart, my friend. I appreciate the sincerity and purity of your words and motivation.

    In such challenging times, we know who are the genuine fighters. Even if they leave for another army, God bless them. We can spend time and resources consolidating and strengthening from within.

    Instead of judging, let us look at ourselves and think how we can grow, change for the better and make a difference.

    Perhaps then, if everyone of us were to look at ourselves and each other different, and move in faith and strength, we can see results that matter.

    Take care and God bless you, A Single Vote.

    Please keep in touch. I am blessed to have you share your views here in my blog.

    Have a lovely evening!

  1. says:

    QQ As long as we are alive, we cannot be free of difficulties and hardships, nor can we be spared from problems. The question is how we overcome and resolve them.
    And there is only one answer: to confront and challenge life's trials head on.

    By so doing, we are actually able to change them into sources of joy and encouragement. Hardship builds character. To put that very succinctly, one can never become a person of extraordinary character just by leading an ordinary and peaceful life, but avoiding difficulties and challenges.

  1. says:

    Unknown Hi my dearest Nisha

    Thanks so much for swinging by and for taking the trouble to leave your thoughts here. I appreciate our connection which has been sustained for the last 5 or 6 years...and do miss you so!!!

    I am glad you love this poem. I first read it when I was still in primary school. Then, I did not knpw the meaning of placidly and now - older and wiser, I see the poem in a whole new light.

    Reflections are so important for us to take stock of our lives and to move on from there...

    You are most welcome. It is so strange that I had this urge to put this up at about 4a.m. this morning and searched the net for it.

    Now I know why, my dear.

    Do take care of yourself and see you in July - by then, I can call you Dr. Nisha :-).

    Keep in touch and know that you always have a special place in my heart!

    Hugs and love

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear Jack2

    Lovely to hear from you again.

    Indeed you are right. The first step is always the most difficult. But once we take it - there is no stopping us!

    Take care and God bless you!

    Best wishes

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear Chester

    You are most welcome! I thought I'd add some background info about it so that we can better understand the motivation and experience of the poet - and then we can better appreciate the significance of the meaning behind this poem. i did :-) and was blessed when doing this post!

    Take care and God bless you. Do keep in touch!

    Best wishes

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear Village Boy

    Life is a beautiful journey filled with potholes from which we can learn lessons that we can be better persons. Whether we fail or succeed, the memories will be with us and will surely guide us to be better and wiser persons.

    Thanks so much for being such a supportive reader and friend.

    God bless you.

    Shalom

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear Village Boy

    Most appropriate quotation - life gives us many opportunities even if we never looked for them...And because opportunity knocks at our door, we should grab it and grow to the best of our capabilities.

    Take care and thanks for sharing!

    Have a lovely evening.

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear QQ

    What realistic and pragmatic advice you have shared with us this evening! I can see by your words that you must have learnt much from the university of life because your words resound with conviction and confidence.

    I agree that facing up to our enemies or obstacles is a better strategy than running away from the lemons that life serve to us.

    May you continue to bless us with your words of wisdom and inspiration. I appreciate your caring nature and willingness to share.

    Take care and God bless you always!

    Best wishes

  1. says:

    Selvi Even when opportunity knocks at our door, we still have to get up off our seat and open the door...

  1. says:

    Anonymous If opportunity doesn't knock, build a door then.

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear Selvi

    Indeed in all circumstances, we have to move it baby :-). It takes effort, determination and faith to move mountains.

    And i know you have that, dear Selvi! Take care and God bless you!

    Cheers

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear Anon @ 9.59 pm

    That is determination in action! Good comment!

    Thanks for sharing.

    God bless you always.

    Cheers

  1. says:

    Anonymous The Paradox of our Times

    We have bigger houses but smaller families

    More conveniences but less time

    We have more degrees but less sense

    More knowledge but less judgements

    More experts but more problems

    More medicines but less healthiness

    We’ve been all the way to the moon and back but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbour

    We built more computers to hold more information to produce more copies than ever but have less communication

    We have become long on quantity but short on quality

    These are times of fast foods but slow digestion

    Tall man but short character

    Steep profits but shallow relationships

    It’s a time when there is much in the window but nothing in the room

    (by his Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama)

  1. says:

    Anonymous You know what, Masterwordsmith. it's a good post but often a person needs to have experience a certain measure of actual limitation out of hardship before one can promote credibly the ideas expounded. Otherwise they may sound somewhat like platitudes.

    "Genteelity"(of sorts) and a fairly wealthy middle class endowed early background can be myopia causing.

    Example, such a person with loving parents can make allowance automatically for the fact that, in life, others may not have been so fortunate, by way of love and wealth, to start with.

    ~wits0~

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear Anon @ 10.43 p.m.

    Many thanks for such a meaningful quotation from his holiness the 14th Dalai Lama.

    Only a man like him who has spent much time in reflection and meditation can write such inspiring lines.

    Thanks for sharing. Take care!

    Best wishes

  1. says:

    Anonymous Dear MWS, the Dalai Lama is also a politician and well known to be VERY politically correct.

    Here: http://fwd4.me/Q1
    Hahaha!

    ~wuts0~

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear ~witso~

    Very good observation. Thanks for the encouraging comment. I agree with you thoroughly. As one who is in her late forties, I can safely say that the hard knocks in life have certainly helped me to grow as a person - be it as a writer, musician, mother, friend etc.

    Without life-transforming experiences, the scales of ignorance or arrogance can blind us from seeing life as it is. Worse still, words spoken or written could be mere rhetoric.

    One would not appreciate a glass of water without having experienced thirst, or the everyday blessings in life without experiencing a deprived state be it materially, spiritually or emotionally.

    Very often, we can see the depth of character of a person from the depth of thought he or she expresses. Without such deep life-changing experiences, growth could actually plateau into mediocrity and nonchalance to the fact that we have to fully savor life to really live.

    Take care and have a lovely evening!

    Warmest wishes

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear ~witso~

    Did you draw that yourself? It looks very Van Gogh in style :-). Reminds me of his Starry, Starry Night!

    Thanks so much for your inout to my blog. I feel so blessed that you not only share your words but also links and art work!

    Take care and have a lovely evening.

    Warmest wishes

  1. says:

    Anonymous Dear MSW, my typo error:

    Meant to say,

    "Example, CAN such a person with loving and solicitous parents AND smooth unstressed childhood make allowance(understand) automatically for the fact that, in life, others may not have been so fortunate, by way of love and wealth, to start with?"

    The chances are NOT!

    One gets many bangs in life but it is a a grievous hurt for one to have to suffer low self-esteem on account of parental abuse(of sorts).

    Fortunate kids grow up usually spoilt and unappreciative.

    ~wits0~

  1. says:

    Anonymous Fear MWS. It's the Edvard Munch's "Silent Scream" :D

    No way I could have done such! LOL!

    Thank's for making my not so silent scream possible. Hahaha!

    ~wits0~

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear ~wits0~

    Ah - now I get it. Thanks for clarifying...This old lady can be blur sometimes!

    Yup - abuse can leave very deep scars both psychologically, emotionally, socially and physically. Sometimes, time cannot heal at all...

    Thanks for being a deep thinking reader!

    Take care and have a good evening!

  1. says:

    Unknown Hi ~wits0~

    Ah - I thought it looked familiar. I think I did a post on it once called ten lessons from ten great painters. I could be wrong.

    These days I am terribly forgetful!

    Thus I am so amazed that you can be absolutely energetically creative even at your age.

    A real inspiration you are!

    Cheers

  1. says:

    Anonymous "These days I am terribly forgetful!"

    This is normal. With the cares of the world through having a family especially, there is a price you pay.
    If one really wants to remain sane and more placid, you can't marry and lead a "family life". Can't have the cake and eat it too. Unfortunately.

    ~wits0~

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear ~wits0~

    :-) I think it is more to do with ageing...Someone once told me that our brain starts shrinking every ten years by the time we hit 30 - I have not verified the reliability of validity of that statement but I do believe the older I get, the more difficult it is to remember lyrics of songs.

    I have no problem recollecting lyrics to oldies such as To Sir With Love but I do have a problem with more recent hits such as You Raise Me Up. :-)

    At the same time, juggling career, family life and personal commitments is quite challenging too - especially as a woman :-).

    Take care and have a great day.

    Cheers

  1. says:

    ahoo What a blessing it would be if we could open and shut our ears as easily as we open and shut our eyes.

    We cannot choose our parents but we can certainly choose our dreams and goals. The future belongs to those who believe in themself and have the courage to face failures.

    Each of us will one day be judged by our standard of life, not by our standard of living. By our measure of giving, not by our measure of wealth. By our simple goodness and kindness, not by our seeming greatness.

    Proverbs 16:3

    " Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plan will succeed."

    Have a pleasurable day !

  1. says:

    Anonymous "Brain shrinkage, a common symptom of ageing when people hit their 60's, appears to have no impact on an individual's capacity to think or learn, according to ANU research.

    The research is part of a 20-year study by the ANU Centre for Mental Health Research called PATH Through Life and suggests a revision of long-standing views on the impact of age-related brain shrinkage.

    Professor Helen Christensen, the Director of the Centre for Mental Health Research (CMHR), said the findings challenged traditional beliefs about the impact of ageing on the brain.

    "The common belief is that the brain shrinks with age and that this shrinkage is linked to poorer memory and thinking. There is also a belief that greater education, or continued, sustained intellectual activity might allow people to better accommodate the effects of brain ageing," Professor Christensen said. "Our findings do not support these beliefs. It is known that the brain shrinks over the course of a person's life, although the exact trajectory is not well understood, and there are huge individual differences. ....."
    http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/25936.php
    .................................
    Dear MWS, beware of populist ideas as they wrought over time.

    One dangerous populist scam is "Climate Change", something which even so-called pundit like Anil Netto also buys, lock stock and barrel.

    Remember the Millennium Bug scam? I had to, incidentally, stay up all night on station as duty calls, without replacement time off!

    BTW, I think you remember the lyrics of, "To Sir with Love" because you love the song and because you were more carefree then, no?

    ~wits0~

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear ~wits0~

    Ah - thank you! Xie xie! I am so happy you debunked the theory....:-)

    Now I maybe sing my Josh Groban song more confidently because you raised me up with this news haha!

    The Climate Change is a problem but one that is being manipulated by powers that be for hidden reasons!

    Hehe- you are right re the song :-).

    Oh - I also stayed up all night re the millenium bug and felt like an idiot after that when nothing happened.

    Take care and thanks for your wise comment!

    Have a nice day!

    Cheers

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear ahoo

    Thanks for your wise input. We have to account for what we say and do, not just to our Maker but to ourselves and our loved ones. Without that awareness, we might shoot anything anytime without any sense of accountability. This awareness can then act like a buffer that we can make our lives
    count...

    God bless you for the bible verse.

    Shalom

  1. says:

    Anonymous Dear MWS, the Dalai Lama is also a politician and well known to be VERY politically correct.


    Aren't we all ? Politics is about influence, power and control. We behave, say and act in ways that would make us look good and acceptable. Such political animal seldom have the courage to confront but often resort to subterfuge, sabotage, manipulation and of course casting slurs and aspersions.

    Does HH The Dalai Lama's politically correct gestures made his observations any less valid ? If not why not just address that ?

  1. says:

    Anonymous The Dalai Lama has made statements, which according to everyday erudite observations, is patently less than true.

    When he visited the ME, e.g., he levelled praise on islam calling it a ROP(religion of peace)about 2-3 years ago. Recently elsewhere he spoke of the same as a problem to others.

    There is a difference between exercising simple good manners and proffering excessive unwarranted and (to many hearers, misleading) praises.

    This is the truth and not character assassination.

    ~wits0~

  1. says:

    Anonymous The Dalai Lama has made statements, which according to everyday erudite observations, is patently less than true.


    Why appeal to "everyday erudite observation" when it is only wits0 own prejudice ? What erudition is it when you take statements out of context. In your erudition don't you know that context give meaning ? And don't you also know that the most important context is what lies between your ears ? Are you capable of objective and unbiased observation ?


    When he visited the ME, e.g., he levelled praise on islam calling it a ROP(religion of peace)about 2-3 years ago. Recently elsewhere he spoke of the same as a problem to others.


    Remember blindmen touching the elephant. All spoke the "truth" according to the context. So was it wrong observation, hypocrisy or outright lie ?


    There is a difference between exercising simple good manners and proffering excessive unwarranted and (to many hearers, misleading) praises.


    Is islam not a religion of peace ?
    Of course you would be able to cite phrases to demonstrate that this is not so and isn't it also the same with christianity ?

    Did HH not qualify his statement about the current violence in the world ? If so why take his words out of context ?


    This is the truth and not character assassination.


    And is this the same manner in which you arrived at truth that had led you to criticise anil for believing in global warming ?

    You read some research from someone, anil read his. You condemn his believe not because you know for certain but thought you have enough erudition to criticise and condemn. All the arguments that you hold between your ears are not yours but borrowed phrases from other blindmen figuring out what the elephant is - some even have agenda that you know nothing about. Does that make you an expert ?

    Honestly, if you are able, do you really know HH ? Do you believe it if I tell you I had long discussion with his cook in dharamsala and a short discussion with his bodyguard who as a young man came out of tibet with him ?

    Honestly, do you think you really know me ? Why hate based on the words of others ?

    MWS, do not be angry or hateful towards those you hate or hold in contempt but be very angry with those who made you hate and condemn who it is no less a rape of your sensibility and decency.

  1. says:

    Anonymous And btw wits0, how does what you said about HH being a hypocrite invalidate what he had observed in the paradox of our age ?

    Why not address that ? Wouldn't that be a more appropriate response from a decent and upright fellow like yourself ?

  1. says:

    Anonymous Anon @ 11:22 PM and 11:25PM,

    You keep calling others blind men like you have the sight enough to see all through your chosen orthodox viewpoint. One which is easy to repeat by rote but hard to prove.

    Instead of trusting yourself and using observations you chose to go mainly by faith and not own impartial observations despite implying that you have sight unlike the us poor blind men.

    How does that make you any different from any fundamentalist monotheist operating solely on faith alone?

    ~wits0~

  1. says:

    Anonymous Dear MWS. here's the idea, lest you're less familiar:

    The Raft is Not the Shore~Buddha

    We meditate on impermanence in order to see the true nature of the Dharma so that we are not bound by them. A liberated person neither clings or feels aversion to the dharmas, because they bind. A free person transcends both in order to dwell in peace and happiness. The teaching is merely a vehicle to explain the truth. Don't mistake it for the truth itself.
    A finger pointing to the moon is not the moon itself. The finger is needed to know where to look for the moon. But if you mistake the finger for the moon, you will never know the real moon.

    The teaching is like the raft that carries you to the other shore. The raft is needed, but the raft is not the other shore. An intelligent person would not carry the raft on his head once he reaches the other shore. Use my teaching to help you get to the other shore but do not hang onto it as your property. You must be able to let it go.

    Haha!

    ~wits0~

  1. says:

    Anonymous "Honestly, do you think you really know me ?"

    Well, so far you have worked very hard to give the impression that you are one of those who believe that when rape is inevitable then lie back and enjoy it.
    You should equally accept that there are those who will not. There are of course more of your type than the "others".

  1. says:

    Anonymous "You keep calling others blind men like you have the sight enough to see all through your chosen orthodox viewpoint."


    That in itself is a pointer to narcissism (i.e. an incredibly inflated ego). What the teachers would say is he is trapped in materialism and would quote scriptures to his purpose.

    He needs to kill himself first before he can move to higher levels, but I doubt he can.

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