Soul mates. The phrase conjures up visions of that perfect someone—the one and only one. THE perfect mate. The one with whom we have spent many lifetimes together. That one person who knows us inside out, who will make every dream come true, who will be the perfect mate. This person will be so tuned-in to us that we will never need to communicate our needs or desires—they will be met as part of our relationship—and we will live happily ever after. In What Happens After You Find Your Soulmate? Susie and Otto Collins explain that, “You still must face your personal challenges but if you're conscious and awake, you can realize that you have a powerful ally to walk beside you on your path to enlightenment.”
Each of us is curious about our soul mate, with questions such as, Who is my soul mate? Am I with my soul mate? Should I be looking for my soul mate? Is he/she looking for me? Is he/she available? We have many soul mates. During each and every lifetime we have created attachments to people who are our soul mates. Even in this lifetime, we are creating relationships with people who will be our future soul mates, like Kevin and Winnie in The Wonder Years. [I thought those two souls found each other.]
Kevin and Winnie grew up, went their separate ways, found soul mates from previous lives, the ones they needed to spend this lifetime with in order to work out the karma they created with them. But, who knows, in some future lifetime…maybe their next? Thomas Moore in SoulMates put it this way, “If it evokes eternity, then the friendship itself remains in imagination for endless time, even if the personal relationship does not.”
So, who is this special ONE that we want to share our lives with? In Only Love Is Real, Brian Weiss’s description is this: “There is someone special for everyone. Often there are two or three, or even four. They come from different generations. They travel across oceans of time and the depths of heavenly dimensions to be with you again. They come from the other side, from heaven. They look different, but your heart knows them. You are bonded together throughout eternity and you will never be alone.”
How romantic! We will never be alone. Does that mean that we will be in ecstasy 365 days of the year? Not necessarily. We don’t always choose a soul mate who will give us unconditional love and understanding. The soul reincarnates time and time again on a quest for spiritual growth. Its ultimate goal is nirvana. To achieve ever-lasting peace we need to learn to love and accept each other. We come to the earth plane to learn and to teach each other. The universe gives us many opportunities, many roles to play, including partners, to achieve this goal. Jean Shinoda Bolen, The Myth of Eros & Psyche, “To be in the Garden of Eden, or to be in Psyche’s valley with Eros, is to be in an unconscious and blissful place. Life is not about staying unconscious and in bliss. Life is about experiencing reality, actualizing our potential selves in the process of going through life that always includes suffering. Consciousness often sets us on a journey.”
Remember Rhett Butler, Scarlet O’Hara, and Ashley Wilkes? What lessons were they learning? What karma were they creating? Scarlet and Ashley found one another in this lifetime and vowed to be together. However, Ashley found a soul mate with whom he chose to share his current life, leaving Scarlett false hope to believe that one day they would be together. Well, as we all found out, not in that lifetime. Apparently Ashley was not completely honest with Scarlett (nor, possibly, himself). It was only after Scarlett was finally freed from the clutches of an imaginary love did she realize that Rhett was the soul mate with whom she should have shared that lifetime. By then, it was too late. Rhett, who loved Scarlett so, set her free. I wonder how these souls will reincarnate? Will Scarlett return searching for Rhett, the soul who understands and loves her? Will Rhett meet Scarlett, recall the pain, and back off, choosing not to commit to a relationship with her? Will Ashley travel the world looking for Scarlett, so that he can make it up to her?
Dr. Mark Pitstick, in Spiritual Relationships, states, “The issue of relationships becomes very interesting when we remember we each are Eternal Souls. Relationships are not coincidental or unimportant. Think of the thousands of persons we encounter in our lifetimes; why do we form close and lasting relationships with one person but not another?”
Life on earth is not a honeymoon. We are not meant to share every lifetime with one special soul. Instead, we seek out souls with whom we need to work out karmic issues so that we can evolve spiritually. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could choose souls with whom we can truly enjoy earthly life?
Author's Bio
Christina Gikas, C.Ht., M.Msc. Certified Transpersonal and Clinical Hypnotherapist, Counselor, Teacher, Lecturer, Hypnosis Instructor. Orange County based general hypnotherapy practitioner specializing in grief release and past life regression. BA in Psychology, MS in Metaphysics, certified in Advanced Hypnotherapy Techniques, Transpersonal Hypnotherapy, Spiritual Hypnotherapy, Time Line Therapy™ Techniques, Relationship Specialist, Pastoral Psychology Counselor, and Parts Therapy, and NLP trained.
Her passion to learn, teach, and assist others in their quest for self-actualization, self-fulfillment, and healthy living has given her the opportunity to present at the ABH annual convention, the IACH and the IHF conference, where she was awarded Excellence in Enlightenment. Through Outreach Concern of Orange County, Christina served as a K-12 counselor.
For more information please visit her website: gnosishypnosis.com. For a free 30-minute consultation you can reach Christina at 949-461-5861.
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Do you dream of a Malaysia where there is no more injustice, where the rakyat can enjoy a more democratic system of government, where our education is of world class standards, where corruption is rare and meritocracy is practised and people live in harmony? I do.
And for that reason, I believe more of us should dream, visualize it and do our part to make it happen...which is why I am posting this article by William Cottringer. Read it, be inspired, imagine, believe and make it happen!!! Have a nice day!
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If Enough People Imagine and Believe in Something, It Will Happen…
by William S. Cottringer, Ph.D.
If enough people believe in something, it will happen…”The ‘Yes-but’ rest of the story is…True, but maybe just not quite in the exact way or at the precise time as imagined and believed.”
“I can believe anything, provided it is incredible.” ~Oscar Wilde.
Are the New-Age Spiritualists, who are predicting something very BIG, in the way of a major change in consciousness for 2012, correct? (In relation to the end of the Maya calendar of time). Maybe. Consider the major transformations that we have experienced:
• Going from the “Manufacturing Age” to the “Information Age” and all the beliefs that transformation has affected.
• Seeing the explanation of physical reality going from a traditional physics perspective to a quantum mechanics one, and all the new beliefs that transformation has caused.
• Shifting from a basic competitive “win-lose, either-or” mentality to a cooperative “win-win, and-and” one and all the beliefs that have come and gone with that change.
• Changing form a reckless abuse of the planet’s resources to a more thoughtful, stewardship-like sensitivity and all the belief changes involved with that shift.
Furthermore, look at the titles of the books that are so popular today—“The Secret,” “A New Earth,” “The DaVinci Code,” “Eat, Pray, Love,” “A Purpose-Driven Life,” “The Divine Matrix” and all the Harry Potter and Twilight fantasy books and movies. It is obvious that something BIG is in the air.
Behind all failures and unhappiness are “wrong” or incomplete beliefs, while truer and more complete beliefs drive all successes and happiness. Obviously we are all on a success and happiness quest in this life—just do a Google search on these topics or spend a few hours roaming the aisles of a book store to see the most popular subjects, and verify this if you need to.
A very important question that is emerging from this success and happiness quest is, “Why are “wrong” beliefs so easy to adopt and yet so resistive to being changed into correct ones, even with compelling disproof of the old and even more coonvincing proof of the new? A big part of the answer is that beliefs can happen very quickly and yet once formed, are very difficult to bring to the surface in order to understand how they work.
Consider this definition of a belief:
“A belief is a dense packet of energy that is made up of intensely animated thoughts and feelings about the truth of something, based somewhere on a continuum from hard evidence and trust in the validity of the source, to pure, unsubstantiated faith, stored deeply somewhere in the unconscious departments of our minds and hearts.” A bit wordy and over-intellectual, I know, but…
We can have beliefs that are little, medium or big. We can believe evidence about something someone says about us, we can believe trusted authorities that if we try hard enough we will succeed, and we can believe that pure faith moves mountains, even without any proof.
Beliefs are really a self-fulfilling prophetic vicious circle—positive or negative—of the thoughts, feelings and experiences we have, with no clear entry point to know where one stops and the other starts or which effects which most. And oddly, you seem to have to lighten your grip on your really BIG beliefs that drive your whole approach to life, before you can undo all the littler false beliefs that have resulted in failures, which you have accumulated along the way. No wonder beliefs are hard to change!
In the meantime, here are a few practical ways I have managed to grow my own mental flexibility in order to begin to question and rearrange my beliefs in their relationship to the positive success and happiness and the negative failure and unhappiness, I have enjoyed and endured in my journey.
1. Becoming more honest and candid with myself in accepting the likely truth that I don’t know nearly as much as I may pretend to myself and others, especially regarding the results of my basic beliefs, which may be very limiting (Sure I know a lot, but compared to what?).
2. Courageously and inquisitively searching for some kind of positive value and benefits to the painful, negative events I despise most and of which I don’t understand their necessary (although growing tolerance and acceptance of these negative events helps a lot too).
3. Slowing down to notice the most important things I have been failing to notice all along, so I can gradually be more effective in seeing and dealing with reality the way it really is; digging deeper and getting past all the convincing and intriguing illusions, delusions and other surface symptoms of how reality really isn’t (this is very hard to do because this is all too close to who you are to be objective about it).
4. Growing my patience to understand the time-revealed ultimate truths such as the title to this article and the rest of the story, or the reality that I am always being encouraged, guided, pushed, pulled, carried, dragged or flown to a better place for my own good, no matter how bad the current circumstances seem (fortunately this happens with or without my agreement and cooperation, it just happens).
Author's Bio
William Cottringer, Ph.D. is President of Puget Sound Security in Bellevue, WA, along with being a Sport Psychologist, Business Success Coach, Photographer and Writer living in the scenic mountains of North Bend. He is author of several business and self-development books, including, Re-Braining for 2000 (MJR Publishing), The Prosperity Zone (Authorlink Press), You Can Have Your Cheese & Eat It Too (Executive Excellence), The Bow-Wow Secrets (Wisdom Tree), and Do What Matters Most and “P” Point Management (Atlantic Book Publishers), and Reality Repair Rx (Publish America) This article is an excerpt from an upcoming book Reality Repair. Bill can be reached for comments or questions at (425) 454-5011 or bcottringer@pssp.net
