We all know at least one of these people, in our circle of friends or where we work: in their professional lives, they are decisive, self confident, self disciplined, even tempered, energetic, productive, balanced and positive. In their private lives they are supportive, encouraging, patient and fair. These are the successful people that we admire and emulate. We are motivated by their successes; we want what they have and to be like them. Most if not all of these people have one skill in common, they have the ability to be resilient. During a crisis, they are able to let go and move on. This is an extremely important skill, not only in leadership roles but in everyday situations, especially now during these difficult times of crisis.
Before we discuss how one becomes resilient, first we need to understand what this English word means. Basically, it is the skill of recovering quickly after an emergency, crisis or what we might consider as a stressful situation. Imagine, a sponge, after you squeeze it, it returns to its original shape. The word skill is used because everyone can learn to be resilient. With this skill we are not only changing our breathing pattern but we are also changing our thinking patterns.
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Author's Bio
John Styffe is an internationally trained biofeedback specialist and coach who has been practicing in the Zurich area for 11 years.
John, in cooperation with executive coach, Thomas Mahler, created a practical and logical program called HeartSmart®. This program guides people through a simple process that not only teaches people how to be resilient in times of crisis but it helps them to develop an awareness of what is required to respond effectively, efficiently and with flexibility to change.
Consider this: Your world is created as you wish it to be. If you believe that you are a victim of circumstance, then you will always be a “victim”. There is a benefit to being victimized. You will always have people around you who will support you and feel sorry for you. That is comforting. Now consider this: What would happen if you weren’t a victim? What would your life be like if you grabbed it by the throat and shook the living daylights out of it?
The quality of decisions affects the quality of Life.
You are where you are because of the choices you’ve made in your life. If you wish the future to be better than the past, you need to make better choices. Are you swimming in debt? How does that make you feel? I’ve been there and it doesn’t feel good. However, help is just around the corner. You just need to make the decision to act. It’s tough to take the first step to recovery and that’s exactly what it is, recovery. If you make the choice to act, you will persevere. How is your life? Are worldly things smothering it? Are you able to stand out from the crowd? How much television do you watch during a day? Do you read? Are you happy with the way things are going? How’s the job?
Start a new day in a new way!
Each day the sun rises. It doesn’t know about your life, it does what it is supposed to do each day. Imagine if the sun was like you? Would it rise and create a world of beauty? You have a choice, and only you can make the choice, as to what type of day it will be. If you wish for negative things, expect them ‘cause they’re coming. If you wish for a day full of excitement and challenge, it will be given to you. YOU make the call. As a racehorse is trained to bolt when the gates open, you have to adjust your thinking so you are ready to face the day when the alarm sounds.
Confrontation is good.
There is a better life waiting. You have to make the toughest choice of your life by confronting the issues that bother you. Are people around you telling you things that you don’t want to hear? Listen to them. They are trying to help. The same principle applies to issues that you find uncomfortable. These issues exist so you can succeed and master THEM, not the other way around.
So, if you are a creation of your past, what will you do to make the future brighter?
Try this: Sit at the table with a pad of paper and a pencil. Now, write your name on the paper. Did you do it? How difficult was that? I know it seems foolish, but I’m getting to a point. You were able to make a decision to write your name on the paper. What’s stopping you from attacking a greater problem? It really is a simple thing to do. The difference between the two things is that there was no consequence in writing your name on the paper. The fear of consequence will stop you from solving problems. But the funny thing is, not doing something automatically makes the consequence worse. It’s nature’s way. Now, write down the thing that is bothering you most. O.K. so far? Good. Now, write down the first thing that you can do to get you started on the path that will correct the problem. Keep going. That wasn’t as hard as you thought, right? What will you do next?
Do something good for you. Choose an area of life and demand of yourself that you get it under control. When you sit down to eat, you don’t gulp the whole plate down, you take a little bit at a time and chew it. So, start small and keep chewing away. Only you can do this and you’ll do great.
If there is anything I can do to help, e-mail me at dave@winsorpd.com.
Regards,
Dave Winsor
Author's Bio
Dave Winsor is a radio broadcaster and motivational speaker from Portland, Maine. He is a cancer survivor for the past 18 months. Along with public speaking, Dave spends time raising money for various cancer charities including St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital. He recently chaired a series of roundtable discussions about getting the most out of life. He was also a featured speaker at the 30th annual “Living With Cancer” conference in Augusta, Maine. He is a husband for 20 years and has two teenage children. Dave resides in Maine.
