Our soul journey into the physical is to re-member who we are. That’s it! This is the big mystery of life (smile). As we move through this crazy little thing we call life, every person, every experience, every breath is there to help you re-member who you are and who you want to be. Even the most unconscious person is going through this process—everyone is.
We attract, into our Oneness of being, people who will help us understand ourselves more intimately. When that other person enters our realm of existence, a wonderful, chemical change starts to happen within us. Within that chemical change, we start the process referred to as “falling in love” and what a fall it is!
Those “others”, who will help us to re-member who we are and what we are capable of, are also going through that internal change as well. They, too, are seeking the same thing—to know themselves through this impending union of souls. Each breath you take together brings you into an even greater expansion of who you are both individually and collectively (since we are not separate to begin with). The more you learn of who you are via the “other person”, the more you want to know about yourself (and visa versa) and this goes on forever.
When two people come together and are continually learning, expanding, and seeking in that Oneness of each other, the moments never fade. The moments together become grander and a deeper awareness of the soul is revealed in each expanded breath together.
When one person stops growing and does not wish to seek further, the chemical reaction that created this Holy Union starts to change. This chemical reaction of the intense learning together was put to a halt and so the counterpart will react to that change chemically and unconsciously. The expanded energy fields of the Oneness (two people in a relationship) start to disconnect as one retracts to the point that the other can no longer feel their Oneness within the union in which the relationship started. The “in-love” feeling fades then ceases.
As this once intense chemical interaction retreats from every cell of the body and mind, the partner who is still wishing to know his/herself fully starts sending out signals to the next person who will help them further realize their Oneness. These highly charged signals can reach far across the globe. The human has no idea where their next soul mate is living, but the soul itself does, and will be sure to have the two unite no matter where in the world they live.
This is not to be looked at as right/wrong or good/bad—it simply is. Perhaps the only way one can truly experience oneself fully in re-membering who one really is would be with another and the first relationship has gone as far as it could go.
We try and live in such a restricted world and become entangled in the misguided teachings that love is forever (which it is spiritually, but very rarely a human trait). The experience of Self-realization is an ongoing process, and will always seek a higher union with Self. ~
Author's Bio
My name is Lisa Gawlas (It was Parkhurst until I got married). I am 46 years young with three children aged 25 thru 18 and am happily divorced. I was born and raised in the valley of the Pocono Mountains - Wilkes-Barre PA, and now live in Newport News, VA.
I have made it my life's goal to teach all I can about this magical and wonderful world of Spiritual Beings incarnating as Humans (you and me). I also publish a bi-monthly magazine called "The Wonder of You."
ocho-onda Hi Paula,
This is my favourite interpretation on Love as adapted from Kahlil Gibran's "The Prophet". Enjoy!
Then said Almitra, "Speak to us of Love."
And he raised his head and looked upon the people, and there fell a stillness upon them. And with a great voice he said:
When love beckons to you follow him,
Though his ways are hard and steep.
And when his wings enfold you yield to him,
Though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you.
And when he speaks to you believe in him,
Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden.
For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning.
Even as he ascends to your height and caresses your tenderest branches that quiver in the sun,
So shall he descend to your roots and shake them in their clinging to the earth.
Like sheaves of corn he gathers you unto himself.
He threshes you to make you naked.
He sifts you to free you from your husks.
He grinds you to whiteness.
He kneads you until you are pliant;
And then he assigns you to his sacred fire, that you may become sacred bread for God's sacred feast.
All these things shall love do unto you that you may know the secrets of your heart, and in that knowledge become a fragment of Life's heart.
But if in your fear you would seek only love's peace and love's pleasure,
Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love's threshing-floor,
Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears.
Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.
When you love you should not say, "God is in my heart," but rather, I am in the heart of God."
And think not you can direct the course of love, for love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
Love has no other desire but to fulfil itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love's ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.