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THE TOP 10 THINGS TO TELL YOUR CHILD

Posted by Unknown On Sunday, April 26, 2009 0 comments

It is very important to talk to our kids and to build a wonderful relationship with them. Time flies and before we know it, they are ready to leave the nest and if we do not make use of the time we have with them, it may be too late....Some of the things you can tell them include the following:

1. I Love You, No Matter What.

Let your children know you love them unconditionally. Emphasize that they do not always need to be good, successful, or smart for you to love them. Love their successes and failures.

2. I Respect You.

Children deserve respect too! You will teach your children a lot about respecting other people’s values and boundaries, when you show them respect.

3. I Support Your Decision.

Be supportive in their decisions, as long as it is not something that will cause them harm. There are many adults living with resentment and regret because their parents did not support their dreams and goals.

4. I Am Listening.

Listen without judgement or criticism. Listen with out self-referencing. Listen with the intent to just listen. You don’t need to understand, relate or like what they are saying. Just listen.

5. You Brighten My Day!

Let your child know how much joy they bring into your life. Show them that they are a blessing.

6. I’m So Glad You’re My Child.

Tell them what unique qualities you admire. Encourage them to share their skills and talents with you.

7. Tell Me More.

Be inquisitive in a good way. Show enthusiasm when they are speaking. Use your tone and body language to show you are paying attention. Be curious about what they are saying, but don’t interrupt.

8. I Want To Understand.

Let your child know when you do not understand what they are going through. Ask them to share, but don’t push. Let them come to you on their own free will.

9. Thank You.

Show gratitude for the little things, even if it is their responsibility. Thank them when they do something without you asking.

10. Let Me Help You.

If your child needs help, be there. Be there with your love and spirit.

About the Author
This piece was written by Marie Magdala Roker, Certified Breakthrough Parenting Instructor, Family Coach, who can be reached at mroker@livelearnempower.com, or visited on the web at http://www.smartbeecoaching.com/.