Did you wake up today and ask “what am I doing with my life”? Or perhaps you find yourself wondering if there’s more to life than the daily grind of work, home, activities, day in and day out .. the same old thing.
Are you happy, like your job but feel there’s got to be something more out there?
Do you want work to be more fulfilling, meaningful and fun? Would you like to jump out of bed each day with a smile on your face, a real sense of purpose and excitement? How wonderful would that feel!?
Not that long ago I was hopping from job to job. In an 11 year working career I held over 15 jobs in 7 industries. The longest I ever stayed in a job was 9 months. And I managed to take a total of 4 years off in between jobs.
That should have told me something but it was only last year that I finally figured out what was going on.
You see, I really don’t like working!
That’s right, I said it. I still don’t.
I left my first advertising job due to a clash of values with my boss. The second job in financial services because I didn’t feel right about convincing people to hand over their life savings for 120% returns in the stock market. And so on. New jobs, new reasons to leave.
Looking back I can see clearly now that my CORE VALUES were not being met in any of these jobs!
There was no courage, love, openness, fun, freedom or growth in any of them. No wonder my spirit rebelled and my mind quit the party 5 minutes into it.
You know what’s one of the saddest things in the world? Living a life of mediocrity and indifference. Like I did for so long.
Living on autopilot because that’s the easy thing to do. In fact, it’s the hardest because of the price we ultimately pay.
Being ok with waking up every day to go work in a job you can’t stand, to make money that you spend too fast, for 2 weeks of vacation a year and dreaming about the day you’ll come into money or get a great break or have the guts to up and out of this so-so existence to actually MAKE your dreams come true… That is truly the saddest misuse of our lives on Earth, a gross waste of time and talent.
When you find your purpose, the contribution you were here to make in this world, discover your potential and tap into your inner self where all the answers already are, you will never work another day in your life.
Even if you spend 50 hours a week following your heart and living a life of passion, it won’t ever feel like work. It can get challenging and hard at times but it will always, always, ALWAYS be worth it!
And that my friend, is how life is meant to be lived.
With passion, courage and love. Making a difference in this
world. Making each day count.
The world desperately needs people who are living fully, with authenticity and passion. The world needs YOU to come alive. Have you? Isn’t it time?
written by Tia Singh
Author's Bio
I am a Co-Active Life Coach, trained by the Coach Training Institute and a Certified NLP Practitioner, recognised by the Society of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.
In addition, I am a Psych K facilitator and use muscle testing, LOA, NLP and other techniques to help change deep underlying beliefs that are stopping you from progressing towards the life you wish you were living.
6 comments to A LIFE OF MEDIOCRITY OR A LIFE OF PASSION
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Unknown Dear Tiger
Like you, this post is very meaningful to me. I left my previous job because of the same reason and I took the risk to step out - sth that I do not regret till this day.
At the moment, I am at the crossroads of my life and I need to make some very important life-changing decisions - not too easy at my age haha. Needless to say, I long for something more exciting. I believe that all of us need change after a while...with no change, there is no growth, the same goes for the system in our country! But that is a different cup of tea altogether.
Wow - from CPA to shipping ...That is a world of difference but I reckon the latter is much more exciting. I have never met you but from your writings, I feel that you would definitely thrive in shipping than in accounting. :-).
Take care and have a great day today and everyday of your life!
Cheers!
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Murali This is a beautiful article indeed, and i can honestly relate to the dream of breaking free from this 'rat race' life, to do something more meaningful, to live.
But how does one do that?
What kind of time frame can one afford, and how does one weigh financial security (at this economic climate of uncertainty), family expectations, obligations etc etc.
I am not wanting to sounds like im looking for an excuse to maintain this dreadful norm, but how does one break free?
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Unknown Dear Murali,
My apologies for my late response to your comment. I did not have internet access for 2.5 hours and connectivity has just been restored! Straight after I published your comment, I lost my internet access.
I am glad you could resonate with this post and you have asked some very very difficult questions. I honestly wish I knew the answer.
I think it would probably be worse for a man than a woman because of the heavier responsibilities.
I am sure that as you pursue your dreams and ambitions and pray, God will show the way, in His time. The only problem is the waiting period. Certainly the current economic climate is most worrying so please do not make any rash decisions.
Do take care and thanks for sharing....I am sure you will go very far as you are very much in tune with yourself.
All the best to you and please keep in touch!
God bless you and thanks for coming by.
Shalom,
mws
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Murali Dear MWS,
No apologies necessary k, tis was a suprise indeed to get such a pleasant reply from you ;)
Your article echoes my very core understanding, that there's more out there and a job thats not complementary to expression, love and more, must not be right after all.
Just that, there're centuries of social norms, most of them from the very onset of civilisation itself, that govern our mindset, not to mention compounded by culture, religion etc etc.
Its funny how common sence is not common, and when faced with the REALITY OF WHAT LIFE IS NOW, the yearning for something more is STILL WARM & ALIVE, leading one to believe that centuries of preconceived ideas are not etched in stone just yet.There is still a missing link that defines happiness.
To lay this ideal and hope on others who are a part of our lifes is the tricky part. Will parents agree? Will our spouses adapt? Will our siblings think us nuts? Will our friends think we've lost our marbles? Will we be alone, in this crucial time, and will our tidings change for the better? Sigh..
If only the answers were simple..
Really nice to read your work, and do keep in touch ok.
Take care, and cheerios!
Mu
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Unknown Dear Murali,
Thanks so much for sharing your very deep thoughts. I really appreciate your sincere and candid comments which strike a chord in my heart because I feel exactly the same way.
Before I go on, I must clarify that this wonderful article was not written by me, but by Tia Singh (in case you think I am Tia). My name is Paula and I blog here and also at a few other places in blogspot and wordpress. I know. I am a blog addict but myheart is always with unplugged here which is where I post the most articles....not all of my own writings though.
A lot of what we face , especially the struggles of the inner man, would be the result of social conditioning and our true persona breaking out of it. By nature, especially for Asians, we are socialized into thinking and believing that we must conform and that it is imperative that we follow tradition,. customs and prescribed roles. Few would dare to chase their dreams. Even fewer would dare to allow their children to pursue their dreams.
I am one of them.
As a former lecturer (I left the edu industry for fear of losing my sanity when I saw the4 decline in standards!!!),I had high hopes and dreams for my older boy. I wanted him to be either an accountant or a lawyer.
He tried to do accounting but it was not his cup of tea...and one day, reality set in. Since my boy is gifted in music, I spoke to him before he took his pre-Uni exams and told him to work hard...and that he need not live out mom's dreams but that he should pursue his dream to be a musician. With that, he got through his pre-u, is now in second year as a music major in uni and is happy doing what he is best at with A LOT OF PASSION indeed.
So here I am, the product of strict conditioning from a traditional family - I sacrificed my dream and hopes for my son while others were shocked and some laughed at me but one thing is for sure Murali - my boy and I are now very close because I listened to him, to his heart even without him saying anything and now he plays and composes with so much passion.
What does the future hold for him? I have no idea but I trust him and hope that he will be able to carve out a great life for himself one day.
As for me, my dream is to retire in the jungle, in a tropical forest...wooden house - but must have internet access or else I cannot blog and to do what I love most - read, write and blog while surrounded by the beauty of nature.
I think it is important to follow your heart. You are still very young, Murali...me - very old already haha...so listen to Auntie here saying...young man...CHASE THAT DREAM of yours and if it is girl - CHASE HER TOO!!! :-) Don't let go of what you believe to be true and real. :-)
Lovely meeting you. Have a good day!
Cheers
Tiger Hi MWS,
This post hits home for me.
I qualified as a CPA but wound up in shipping, which I have found out is THE life for me.
I love waking up every day and anticipating the workday ahead of me.
Most people "stay" in their jobs because they are too afraid to try anything else.