THE SPEED OF TRUST - The One Thing That Changes Everything

Posted by Unknown On Tuesday, May 12, 2009 4 comments
Have you ever trusted someone — and gotten “burned?” Have you ever failed to trust someone and missed significant opportunities as a result? The practical issues with regard to extending trust are these: How do you know when to trust somebody? And how can you extend trust to people in ways that create rich rewards without taking inordinate risk?

When you’re dealing with trust, it seems there are two extremes. On one end of the spectrum, people don’t trust enough. They’re suspicious. They hold things close to the vest. Often, the only people they really trust are themselves. On the other end, people are too trusting. They’re totally gullible. They believe anyone, trust everyone. They have a simplistic, naive view of the world, and they don’t even really think (except superficially) about the need to protect their interests.

Extending trust can bring great results. It also creates the possibility of significant risk. The decision to trust or not to trust is always an issue of managing risk and return. So how do you hit the “sweet spot”? How do you extend trust in a way that maximizes the dividends and minimizes the risk?

Life is filled with risk. However, as noted historian and law professor Stephen Carter has observed: “Civility has two parts: generosity when it is costly, and trust, even when there is risk.” The objective, then, is not to avoid risk. In the first place, you can’t; and in the second place, you wouldn’t want to because risk taking is an essential part of life and leadership. Instead, the objective is to manage risk wisely — to extend trust in a way that will avoid the “taxes” and create the greatest “dividends” over time.

Learning how to extend what I call “Smart Trust” is a function of two factors — your propensity to trust and your analysis. “Propensity to trust”is primarily a matter of the heart. It’s the tendency, inclination, or predisposition to believe that people are worthy of trust and a desire to
extend it to them freely. “Analysis” is primarily a matter of the mind. It’s the ability to analyze, evaluate, theorize, consider implications and possibilities, and come up with logical decisions and solutions.

As you think about these two factors — “propensity to trust” and “analysis”– how would you rate yourself on each? Do you typically tend to trust people easily — or do you tend to be suspicious and hold things close? Do you tend to analyze, theorize, and ponder over things — or do you give problems your cursory attention and then move on?

While extending trust to other people always brings with it some risk, the often greater risk that’s frequently ignored is what happens when managers DON’T extend trust to others. These managers usually incur much larger taxes than they think — including bureaucracy, politics, disengagement, and turnover — and they often lose the dividends that flow from extending trust, such as innovation, collaboration, partnering, and loyalty. Sadly,their suspicion sometimes even helps produce the very behaviors they fear,which further validates their suspicion. By treating people as if they can’t be trusted, they help to create a collusive, downward cycle of distrust. And this is one reason why — in this “flat world” global economy — not trusting people is often the greatest risk of all.

With regard to “propensity to trust,” I once knew a business owner who was so suspicious that his employees might be stealing from him, that he would literally interrogate them almost daily. He would even do occasional spot “frisk checks” when they left the office. This man was convinced that people were trying to steal from him. In reality, no one was, but his suspicious actions drove away his most talented people who wouldn’t tolerate working in such a distrustful environment or for such a suspicious boss.

With regard to “analysis,” it’s helpful to consider three vital variables, which you can do by asking these questions:

1. What is the opportunity (the situation or task at hand)?
2. What is the risk involved? (Possible outcomes? Likelihood of outcomes? Importance of outcomes?)
3. What is the credibility (character and competence) of the people involved?

Smart Trust doesn’t mean that you extend trust to everyone. Based on the circumstances, your judgment may be to not extend trust or to extend only a limited measure of trust. In extending trust, the general guideline is to extend trust conditionally to those who are earning it and abundantly to those who have already done so. Keep in mind that even when you extend trust abundantly, there should still always be clear expectations and accountability because those are principles that actually enhance trust.

I affirm that in our “flat world” economy, the ability to establish, grow,extend, and restore trust is the key professional and personal competency of our time. And the ability to exercise Smart Trust is a vital part of that competency. It will enable you to create a powerful balance and synergy between analysis and the propensity to trust, which, in turn, will produce the judgment that enables you to effectively leverage yourself and to inspire the talent, creativity, synergy, and highest contribution of others.

by Stephen M.R. Covey

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Note: The preceding article is based on the book, “The Speed of Trust,” by Stephen M. R. Covey, released in trade paperback by Simon & Schuster’s Free Press.

4 comments to THE SPEED OF TRUST - The One Thing That Changes Everything

  1. says:

    Anonymous I believe this gut feeling or instinct that determines the speed of trust is similar to the one which was the basis of Malcolm Galdwell's Blink.

  1. says:

    Unknown Hi Andrea

    True..That is another good book. I have not read his latest though, have you?

    Take care, dear Andrea.

    Have a good day!

    cheers

  1. says:

    Doc Paula,

    Everyone lies (as Doctor Greg House puts it...only symptoms don't lie).

    It's the type and the degree of lie that hurts one's trust actually. Trust no one except for yourself is the best way to start any kind of a relationship, at least until you've been through some thick and thin with that person.

    To me, smart trust is what i would call "defensive trust". You've been burnt before and don't intend to get burnt again. So, you become defensive and start analysing each every relationship or contact that comes along. In time you become wise and matured, and you know how and where to set your limits in a relationship.

    Just my two cents.

    Cheers

  1. says:

    Unknown Dear Dr. Saravanan,

    You must really finish your specialist studies in psychology because you are very good in assessing my mental state haha and I am a very difficult person to understand because my mind moves too fast and I morph jsut as quickly. :-)

    After all that has happened, indeed, I don't want to ever be burnt again and I trust very few :-)...but I trust you lah !

    Relationships...*sigh* I have been disappointed so much already that I am absolutely thankful for the few friends I have, including the ones I made through blogging, such as you.

    With all the incorrigible ogres that rule around, no wonder society is degrading and more and more ppl do not know how to love, how to be kind, how to accept love and only know how to lambast, complain, scold,see the negative side of many aspects of life.

    At this point of my life, I will be MOST happy to be living in a jungle as long as i have internet access, basic amenities and just appreciate Mother Nature. Sometimes, sorry to sound cynical, even my hamsters are nicer than characters we see around, stomping away to make us cower with fear!!!

    Trust? Hmmm difficult thing to get and to give....

    Thanks for sharing!!!

    Take care and have a nice day!

    Cheers

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