What do women really want? The answer is quite simple: to have a definitive say in their life, and to regain their self esteem sufficient enough to self govern and freely express their irrepressible love, joy and nurturing qualities.
For thousands of years women have surrendered their power to men. This has become so ingrained in the female psyche that women in most cultures around the world see themselves as second class citizens, and actually believe it is divinely decreed that they subjugate themselves to male dominance. Some male dominated religions as well as political regimes still enforce this belief under pain of drastic sanctions for non compliance.
But the time has come for women to embrace the full power of their wisdom and love. Women are more powerful than they give themselves credit for.
The self-perpetuating illusion of needing to be protected and looked after denies the self-determining creative power of women; denies them the expanse of being that is their birthright and intrinsically inherent in their femininity. In western society, this unfair bias against equality of the genders is gradually breaking down, but insidious remnants of contra-feminine attitudes still appear to surface in most areas of business, politics, sport, media and religion, to name a few.
Can we expect men to go out of their way to change this gender bias? Hardly! They have too much to lose; not the least of which, as many men are discovering, that as women reclaim their personal power and self-confidence in society, some men seem to lose their male identity, succumbing to a defeatist attitude of gender-swapping roles. But it does not have to be this way. In fact, that is not what women want at all.
It is neither submission of one gender to the other, nor dominance of one gender over the other that serves the greater good of either. This is the day and age when both women and men must stand strong and generously in their own unique and beautiful gender roles.
It is our hope for the future that young women and men embrace the opposite sex in an attitude of joy and delight in their differences: equal and opposite. It is these differences that, ironically, contribute to their wholeness. As the next generations allow themselves and each other to express their potential freely, with great joy and for mutual growth and satisfaction, life on this planet will exponentially change for the better.
When will women give themselves permission to be fully and expansively alive: alive and actually in the forefront of thought, of science, of creativity, of religion, of sport, of politics and of business? Bear in mind that women must bring to the table of all these disciplines, their own unique and feminine qualities. They have no need to "make it" in a man's world.
As women's wisdom rises and they begin to believe in their power to control their lives in a powerfully feminine way, our world will discover that love and service are far more effective at breaking down the bias of differences than war and brute force.
The rise of the wise and gentle power of the feminine will allow the forceful masculine need to dominate, to soften into a more enlivening energy, one that works hand in hand with its partner. In a world where the two genders work together in mutual respect and balance, we will initiate an age of peace and growth such as has never been seen before.
It starts with us; with each individual making a conscious shift in expectation of the other, an expectation which sees only generosity and love in the eyes of the other. Let us each make an effort today, so that our children and their children will know only joy and happiness in the full expression of their gender.
Author's Bio
Marie C. Barrett, author and teacher of spirituality, is working for the transformation of consciousness on the planet. An expanded consciousness is forming and higher energies call to every heart. For more information go to holisticwealthcreation.com and see Marie's blog at holisticwealthcreation.com/blog.
6 comments to RISE OF THE FEMININE WOMAN
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Unknown Dear Ocho-Onda,
Fantastic comment, my friend! I am now quite certain that we can relate to each other because I am very much in touch with the 'masculine side' of my character and likewise you with the 'feminine' side of yours.
As you might have guessed by now, I am not like the usual woman in that while I am liberated, I do not expect men to grovel at my feet or to pay me homage or pamper me. Rather, I believe that regardless of gender, each must find their place in life, respect one another, put aside gender expectations of the discriminatory sort and celebrate who we are.
Alas, we live in an imperfect world. While there still exists macho chauvinistic men, there are also women who perpetuate the myth that women are all 'weak', subservient and needy. At the same time, the reluctance to find middle ground or a comfortable arrangement of role fulfilment has led to much disagreement and dysfunctional situations thereby perpetuating the gender bias which has been transmitted through generations.
Personally, I believe that media has a very large role in driving a shaft between the gender in that while each was to exert his/her own individuality, subconsciously, they cling on to roles/expectations that society has defined for them be it through adverts, music, movies or other subliminal images.
What we need would be emancipated women who seek balance in their lives and also the metro male who are in touch with their feminine side and at the same time, allow women to be who they are.
For far too long, society has defined 'feminine' women in ways that bring profit to industry and this has been exacerbated by the increase of materialistic pursuits such as branded gear etc. As a result, there are many women who claim to be progressive and yet cling to their 'need' to be spoilt, pampered etc. Sheesh....
Ah - that is why if I had not married my husband, I would have remained a spinster for life LOL because I do not think any other man would stomach my radical views where gender roles, feminism etc. are concerned.
You are right in that with all that is happening, men get confused with what women want!!! There needs to be equality of the sexes with respect and a clear understanding of their individual roles and the possibility of overlaps or complementary positions in those roles.
Thanks for sharing your views, Ocho-Onda. Really appreciate your honest views. I miss such discussions..Have a nice day!
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ocho-onda "..I am very much in touch with the 'masculine side' of my character and likewise you with the 'feminine' side of yours....."
I think more importantly, humans need to be in touch with the reality of the modern times.
".. Rather, I believe that regardless of gender, each must find their place in life, respect one another, put aside gender expectations of the discriminatory sort and celebrate who we are...."
I will gladly drink to that, Paula. Cheers!
I think the conundrum lies in the 3 P's and the 3 R's. I think there is a reason why God in His/Her/Its wisdom created us - programmed us differently.
In their digression, the Modern Man and Woman forget, they are brought into this world, as yin and yang, with defined roles, as clear as day is to night,to complement each other of their strengths and weaknesses, to love and respect each other, to propagate the human race.
(Just my humble opinion, not gospel truth,lol)
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Chahya Men are from Mars, women from Venus, but we dont have to be at war right?
Aliens can be friends too, and may migrate to another planet together hehhehe.
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Unknown Dear Ocho-Onda,
Indeed, to steal a line from Bob Dylan, The times, they are a-changing...And if we do not adapt tot he changing environment and even lingo, we stand to lose a lot.
I agree with what you said and alluded to that truth in my previous comment...We have to realize each of us has a purpose in this world and it is up to us to find and to fulfil that which has been given to us.
As to what might happen to the human race in the future, ah - that is a very broad field of debate. :-)
Thanks for sharing, Ocho-Onda.
Take care and have a good day.
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Unknown Dear Chahya,
I am currently reading Alan and Barbara Pease's book called "Why Men don't Listen and Women can't read maps" and they provide clear examples that men and women come from different planets haha! Try to get your hands on it. The illustrations are a scream!
Despite the difference, they need each other....can't live with them, can't live without them so LOVE them haha!
Take care and have a good day.
Salam.
ocho-onda The relationship between Man and Woman,the way we relate to each other has evolved.
Men were traditionally the purveyors of the 3 P's - Possess,Provide & Protect the Nest.
Women were traditionally the purveyors of the 3 R's -Reproduce,Restore & Rule the Nest.
Today, with better education and the advent of machinery to make work less physically intensive, women are able to leave the nest to assist the men in their traditional roles and in doing so, also enable the men to assist the women in their traditional roles in the home.
The problem however arises when either or both the man and woman are not able or won't help each other, to share the work loads.
Let's face it, at this day and age, it may be the ideal arrangement , but no man wants to be the sole super provider as much as there is any woman who still wants to be the sole super home maker but still,there are men who still expect the women to work as well as take care of the home and vice versa as there are many women, who are unable to or won't do any house work. as like men, they had their mothers and maids to do it for them when they were little !
And to make the situation more interesting or worse, all these "liberated" women, as much as they hate to admit it, still love to be spoilt,pampered and let the men provide for every of their whims - a desire which the "non-liberated" women had harboured unabashedly over the centuries, since time immemorial, which they did,without any issue.
"Liberated" women want their men to be macho but in touch with their "femininity". Get real sister, it is pick up line invented by men ! Such men do not exist ! Not on planet Earth, anyway, lol.
At the end of the day, the question remains, " can we ask a cow to be a bull and a bull to be a cow?"
So,do (westernized/liberated) women really know what they want ? I doubt so. Western men are the most confused lot for they no longer know what is expected of them, from their women.
Don't get me wrong, I am all for equality of the sexes but I don't see how we are going to achieve that without being honest in our pursuit.
Cheers.