What I know for sure is that it is extremely detrimental to our success. It literally inhibits our ability to create wealth in all areas of our lives. Left unchecked we suddenly find ourselves holding our breath, running from thing to thing, stressed beyond belief and totally exhausted at the end of the day (if not earlier, perhaps even the moment we get out of bed).
Last weekend I went for a morning paddle for a few hours on a local lake. Nothing earth shattering, no big adventure, just a steady paddle and some quiet time to slow down to the speed of life. It was pretty hot and given the unseasonably hot June we have had here, much of nature is racing ahead (thinking it is July). That is why I was surprised when we discovered that many of the water lilies were in bloom already. Usually that doesn’t happen until late June and we certainly have never been lucky enough to catch so many in bloom all at once. All I can say is they are freaking amazing and beautiful flowers. If you paddle up to one and just float there you can almost see it pulsing opening a little more, and closing just a hair. Sure it is the water and not the flower itself but the effect is mesmerizing.
In that moment the weight of the world just melted away. A very busy week of business related activities which had me all wound up no longer mattered for a bit. I was here, I was happy, it was great.
Now this may seem like a small deal. You may even sarcastically say that you don’t have time nor do you care about looking at the lilies. That’s ok. Not everyone is a nature freak like I am. However, I am here to tell you that if you aren’t stopping and looking, you are missing opportunities right in front of you. Opportunities to grow your business, opportunities to enhance your career, and opportunities to build deep and rich relationships. How do I know this?
In my experience personally and coaching others I constantly see moments where you slap your forehead in that "I could’ve had a V8" manner from the old commercials because you let good fortune and possibility escape as you sped past it at 100 mph riding in your daily to-do schedule. Taking a moment to get clear or get grounded never even crossed your mind. And then this pattern continued for days, weeks, months, years, or maybe even longer.
Do you see yourself in this scenario? Do you sense you may be missing out on something special?
If so - here’s my coach’s challenge for you:
For the next week - for at least 10 minutes a day (split it up as you see fit) - slow down. I mean really slow down. Walk as if you are watching yourself on pause on the TiVo where your heel slowly hits the ground and then rolls one inch at a time toward your toes until your leg starts to swing forward with the other foot’s heel ready to strike the ground. You may think - "That is REALLY freaking slow!" Yes it is. It is for exaggeration and to cultivate some serious awareness for yourself as you go about your day.
As you do this - notice how you feel. Notice what you notice. See if you find yourself able to take a slower and deeper breath. Just watch and listen to what is happening inside and around you.
I guarantee it will astound and delight you much like this water lily did for me. Once you’re able to notice, you are ready to receive new opportunities that come your way and they most definitely are right there waiting for you.
Author's Bio
Paula Gregorowicz, owner of The Paula G Company, is a life and business coach who is passionate about helping women get comfortable in their own skin so they are able to fully value themselves and what they offer and as a result experience greater levels of personal and professional success. She works with them to gain the clarity, confidence, and courage to succeed on their own terms and live life by their own design. Get the Free eCourse and learn the "5 Steps to Turn Fear into Freedom" at THIS LINK.
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4 comments to ARE YOU SO BUSY THAT YOU ARE MISSING WHAT IS RIGHT BEFORE YOU?
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Unknown My dear Walt,
Wise and deep words of wisdom you've got there, my friend. I used to be a worry queen but have decided to live life to the max and not to fret but to find joy, love, happiness and to fill my life with these positive feelings. Fear cripples but love empowers...
Thanks so much, my friend, for breathing wisdom into this blog and into my life.
hugs
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Walt "It is a good day to fight: it is a good day to die." Tashunca-uitco (Crazy Horse)
There will be times, when for the sake of others, we will be resigned to show joy in the most abhorred and dire of situations. This is not to be mistaken for bravado. On the battlefield we simply called it graveyard humor. Those that can master it, give strength to those who are weak in spirit and may otherwise been overwhelmed by the human disaster called war. Now if you can find true joy on a field of death, you are for sure mad, or must be in a higher altered state of consciousness.
The blog post I did on Lieutenant General. Lewis B. "Chesty" Puller, and his famous quote, ("They are in front of us, behind us, and we are flanked on both sides by an enemy that outnumbers us 29:1. They can't get away from us now!") was not so much about "will power" as it was his ability to look fear and defeat in the face and laugh. Thus inspiring and motivating his men to fight their way out of a death trap when all hope seemed lost. Indeed Master Wordsmith, if you have the spirit, there is great power to de found in words.
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Unknown Dear Walt,
My dear warrior friend, you are indeed a brave man full of valor. I am sure in your previous life, you led many men to victory. Thanks so much for your words of wisdom and I hope that you will share with us in a post, your experiences in the war.
Take care and march on Walt!!! To victory and to inspiring many others to live a life filled with courage.
Thanks for the links!
Cheers
Walt Sounds a little like Zen, but so true.
Another major key way to mess up your life, is to worry.
To counter this fear, we must rediscover JOY! And it may take a little work, but seek and you will find Love, and love is the golden key to joy.
The feeling of being driven by joy, of not allowing fear to motivate. When one learns to trust, to quit fearing the future, fearing that you may fail, or what others think, it opens the door to a deeper peace and joy. When joy is the motivation for behavior, all things are possible. I really believe now when a person is having a hard time, some level of fear is involved. Fear serves a purpose, but it can't be the decisive factor in the choices made for creating a meaningful life.