Is it easy for you to trust people, especially your spouse of loved ones? Many do not realize that trust is absolutely vital in a stable relationship but a sane, normal person would wonder as to how much should one trust another and when this trust should be withdrawn. Sometimes, we could be at a disadvantage because of bad experiences in the past that have influenced the way you trust others.
I am certain that you may agree with me that there are many, regardless of their gender, age or color, out there who have roving eyes and many who have roving bodies, you need to realize that every man is not a stinker. Each of us will have to fight our individual battles to get over our hurt and be open to new love. We cannot punish a new guy for the actions of a past guy. Instead, we need to keep an open mind and have the heart to allow a relationship time to develop and grow. Based on knowledge and the experiences we share with out new love, mutual trust will grow .
I believe that after a bad experience, what we need to do is to start expressing ourselves little by little. Gradually, we will be able to feel comfortable with our spouse and begin share secrets from our past or begin sharing your true feelings. Cliched as it may sound, honesty is still the best policy. With that, we can enjoy and savor true intimacy and build a real lasting relationship where both can trust each other.
I have to admit this - many women are prone to play mind games. If we want a long term trusting relationship, we have to stop playing games and to build trust instead of exacerbating matters. A relationship is not a game - it is the union of two personalities who love each other.
In the event that we don’t understand some things, or something rubs us the wrong way, we cannot just stop trusting someone on that basis. For me, I am far too analytical and inquisitive for my own good and tend to read all kinds of things into everything my spouse says and does or didn't do. As always, he laughs at my 'fertile' imagination. If there is a problem - wait. Never react emotionally, wait and sleep on it and look at it logically the next day. By then, we would have cooled down and would be more rational,logical and reasonable.
When we are in a calmer state of mind, we won’t overreact about nothing, or pressure our spouse for an explanation, because that might belittle him and then he could easily pull away. Women have to learn to deal with problems realistically and logically - not emotionally. Conversely, men do think and can behave in ways that make no sense to women, and believe me, we make no sense to them either!!! Do I hear a resounding 'yeah' from you? Such is the beauty of diversity!
With time and effort, trust grows as the relationship grows.
Think about your past relationships and the things that went wrong in those relationships - learn from them and identify what attracted you to these characters in the first place to ensure that we do not repeat mistakes. Also don’t waste your precious time thinking about the guy that got away and be blind to the one standing before you or coming up in your life in your future just because you could not let go of the past.
When we are in a long term relationship, we need to realize that being with someone who can be angry with us without trying to hurt us not only gives us a feeling of security, but also one of acceptance and respect. Just knowing that there are certain lines that won’t be crossed builds trust and you will find you can find a resolution to it.So can you trust him/her again? The answer is in your heart because it is all up to us.
God bless you and have a good evening!
A few good Senior Moments that Freddie sent to me by email. Thanks Freddie! No offense meant to any senior citizen...This is just for laughs! Have a nice day!
An elderly gentleman had been suffering from serious hearing problems for a number of years. He went to the doctor and the doctor was able to have him fitted for a set of hearing aids that allowed the gentleman to hear 100%.
The elderly gentleman went back in a month to the doctor and the doctor said, 'Your hearing is perfect. Your family must be really pleased that you can hear again.'
The gentleman replied, 'Oh, I haven't told my family yet..
I just sit around and listen to the conversations. I've changed my will three times!'
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Two elderly gentlemen from a retirement center were sitting on a bench under a tree when one turns to the other and says: 'Slim, I'm 83 years old now and I'm just full of aches and pains. I know you're about my age. How do you feel?'
Slim says, 'I feel just like a newborn baby.'
'Really!? Like a newborn baby!?'
'Yep. No hair, no teeth, and I think I just wet my pants.'
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An elderly couple had dinner at another couple's house, and after eating, the wives left the table and went into the kitchen.
The two gentlemen were talking, and one said, 'Last night we went out to a new restaurant and it was really great.. I would recommend it very highly.'
The other man said, 'What is the name of the restaurant?'
The first man thought and thought and finally said, 'What is the name of that flower you give to someone you love?
You know.... The one that's red and has thorns.'
'Do you mean a rose?'
'Yes, that's the one,' replied the man. He then turned towards the kitchen and yelled, 'Rose, what's the name of that restaurant we went to last night?'
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Hospital regulations require a wheel chair for patients being discharged. However, while working as a student nurse, I found one elderly gentleman already dressed and sitting on the bed with a suitcase at his feet, who insisted he didn't need my help to leave the hospital.
After a chat about rules being rules, he reluctantly let me wheel him to the elevator.
On the way down I asked him if his wife was meeting him.
'I don't know,' he said. 'She's still upstairs in the bathroom changing out of her hospital gown.'
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A couple in their nineties are both having problems remembering things. During a checkup, the doctor tells them that they're physically okay, but they might want to start writing things down to help them remember ..
Later that night, while watching TV, the old man gets up from his chair. 'Want anything while I'm in the kitchen?' he asks.
'Will you get me a bowl of ice cream?'
'Sure..'
'Don't you think you should write it down so you can remember it?' she asks.
'No, I can remember it.'
'Well, I'd like some strawberries on top, too. Maybe you should write it down, so as not to forget it?'
He says, 'I can remember that. You want a bowl of ice cream with strawberries.'
'I'd also like whipped cream. I'm certain you'll forget that, write it down?' she asks.
Irritated, he says, 'I don't need to write it down, I can remember it! Ice cream with strawberries and whipped cream - I got it, for goodness sake!'
Then he toddles into the kitchen. After about 20 minutes, The old man returns from the kitchen and hands his wife a plate of bacon and eggs.. She stares at the plate for a moment.
'Where's my toast ?'
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A senior citizen said to his eighty-year old buddy:
'So I hear you're getting married?'
'Yep!'
'Do I know her?'
'Nope!'
'This woman, is she good looking?'
'Not really.'
'Is she a good cook?'
'Naw, she can't cook too well.'
'Does she have lots of money?'
'Nope! Poor as a church mouse.'
'Well, then, is she good in bed?'
'I don't know.'
'Why in the world do you want to marry her then?'
'Because she can still drive!'
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Three old guys are out walking..
First one says, 'Windy, isn't it?'
Second one says, 'No, it's Thursday!'
Third one says, 'So am I. Let's go get a beer.'
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A man was telling his neighbor, 'I just bought a new hearing aid. It cost me four thousand dollars, but it's state of the art.. It's perfect.'
'Really,' answered the neighbor . 'What kind is it?'
'Twelve thirty..'
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Morris, an 82 year-old man, went to the doctor to get a physical check-up.
A few days later, the doctor saw Morris walking down the street with a gorgeous young woman on his arm.
A couple of days later, the doctor spoke to Morris and said, 'You're really doing great, aren't you?'
Morris replied, 'Just doing what you said, Doc: 'Get a hot mamma and be cheerful.''
The doctor said, 'I didn't say that.. I said, 'You've got a heart murmur; be careful.'
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In true unplugged tradition, I always save the best for the last....:-)
A little old man shuffled slowly into an ice cream parlor and pulled himself slowly, painfully, up onto a stool.. After catching his breath, he ordered a banana split.
The waitress asked kindly, 'Crushed nuts?'
'No,' he replied, 'Arthritis.'
Now , before you 'forget', send them on to some other folks you know who could use a good laugh !!
Have a good day!
Scamming people is one of the most immoral despicable acts of all.
The Star is to be applauded for bringing the matter of "BLEEDING SCAM : LBA IS 'JUNK SCIENCE" to the attention of the public.
The MMA and other bodies which are supposed to ensure the public receives quality health care need to be proactive and not wait for public complaints indicating harm was done before acting.
Those bodies need to require all purveyors of health-related products and services to prove that the products/services are safe, effective and necessary, BEFORE allowing those products/services to be offered to Malaysians.
In the case of the article in The Star, isn't the harm of wasting a lot of money on the scam enough harm for the MMA to take action against the scam?
Any medicine, vitamin or supplement we ingest or put on our skin has potential for side effects, sometimes harmful side effects.
Doesn't the MMA think the scam has potential for harm because it induces people to consume various medicines and supplements?
Doesn't the MMA realise the potential for harm from people substituting LBA for a visit to a doctor?
Are the purveyors of LBA following proper infection control methods, to not be spreading blood-borne infectious disease such as HIV, Hepatitis, etc?
Is the MMA waiting for serious health problems or deaths to occur before taking action against LBA and other health-related scams?
Is the Health Ministry going to take health-related scams seriously?
WRITTEN BY PAKAC LUTEB
Once upon a time the colors of the world started to quarrel.
All claimed that they were the best.
The most important.
The most useful.
The favorite.
Green said:
"Clearly I am the most important. I am the sign of life and of hope. I was chosen for grass, trees and leaves. Without me, all animals would die. Look over the countryside and you will see that I am in the majority."
Blue interrupted:
"You only think about the earth, but consider the sky and the sea. It is the water that is the basis of life and drawn up by the clouds from the deep sea. The sky gives space and peace and serenity. Without my peace, you would all be nothing."
Yellow chuckled:
"You are all so serious. I bring laughter, gaiety, and warmth into the world. The sun is yellow, the moon is yellow, the stars are yellow. Every time you look at a sunflower, the whole world starts to smile. Without me there would be no fun."
Orange started next to blow her trumpet:
"I am the color of health and strength. I may be scarce, but I am precious for I serve the needs of human life. I carry the most important vitamins. Think of carrots, pumpkins, oranges, mangoes, and papayas. I don't hang around all the time, but when I fill the sky at sunrise or sunset, my beauty is so striking that no one gives another thought to any of you."
Red could stand it no longer he shouted out:
"I am the ruler of all of you. I am blood - life's blood! I am the color of danger and of bravery. I am willing to fight for a cause. I bring fire into the blood. Without me, the earth would be as empty as the moon. I am the color of passion and of love, the red rose, the poinsettia and the poppy."
Purple rose up to his full height:
He was very tall and spoke with great pomp: "I am the color of royalty and power. Kings, chiefs, and bishops have always chosen me for I am the sign of authority and wisdom. People do not question me! They listen and obey."
Finally Indigo spoke, much more quietly than all the others, but with just as much determination: "Think of me. I am the color of silence. You hardly notice me, but without me you all become superficial. I represent thought and reflection, twilight and deep water. You need me for balance and contrast, for prayer and inner peace."
And so the colors went on boasting, each convinced of his or her own superiority. Their quarreling became louder and louder. Suddenly there was a startling flash of bright lightening thunder rolled and boomed. Rain started to pour down relentlessly. The colors crouched down in fear, drawing close to one another for comfort.
In the midst of the clamor, rain began to speak:
"You foolish colors, fighting amongst yourselves, each trying to dominate the rest. Don't you know that you were each made for a special purpose, unique and different? Join hands with one another and come to me."
Doing as they were told, the colors united and joined hands.
The rain continued:
"From now on, when it rains, each of you will stretch across the sky in a great bow of color as a reminder that you can all live in peace. The Rainbow is a sign of hope for tomorrow." And so, whenever a good rain washes the world, and a Rainbow appears in the sky, let us remember to appreciate one another.
-Author and Source Unknown-
