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What Makes People Happy? Ten Key Trends by D.K. Matai
What's happiness? Does it really exist? Can happiness last? How does one become happy? How many people do you know that are really happy? What are the habits of happy people and the principles that might be at the root of their happiness? We asked ATCA 5000 distinguished members over the last several months and here are some of the results that we distilled from those one-to-one conversations around the world.
1. Happy people say YES more than they say NO
Happy people always seem to be doing something new and interesting. When invitations come their way, happy people have cultivated the habit of saying yes. The more they say yes, the more opportunities are presented to them.
2. Happy people LAUGH, JOKE and have a SENSE OF HUMOUR
Happiness can come in the form of a quiet smile yet it is bound to burst out into a laugh occasionally. Happy people appear to appreciate the lighter side of life. They don’t take themselves or anything else too seriously. They laugh often and wholeheartedly. They joke, laugh about every little thing and make themselves the butt of their jokes more often than anybody else. Happy people are easily amused.
3. Happy people say THANK YOU! They Live with a Feeling of GRATITUDE
Happy people have the habit of saying thank you: a regular gratitude practice that helps them to make note of their blessings and what others have done for them. Other happy people are just constantly saying thank you for small gifts, favours, well wishes or compliments. They may give thanks before every meal or send you texts after every lunch or dinner engagement. When they focus on actually feeling true gratitude, they are already open and fluid in regard to receiving and welcoming absolutely new perspectives. Instead of slipping into negative thinking about what they don’t have, happy people appear to stay positive in regard to what they do have. They constantly recognise the blessings and gifts in their lives. Another good reason for people to be grateful and focus on their blessings is that all it takes is three negative thoughts in a row before that triggers a "fight-or-flight" chemical response in most human beings.
4. Happy people SPEAK WELL of OTHERS more often than not
It is not a coincidence that happy people also tend to be remarkably polite, considerate, punctual and non-judgemental. Does being nice feel better than being nasty? Indulging in negative gossip with a friend or work colleague may be fun for a little while, but in the end the result can be a residue of resentment and guilt. All the remarkably happy people ATCA 5000 distinguished members have cited appear constantly to say positive things about other people behind their back. They also want to make their colleagues a part of their lives and want them to meet their friends and loved ones including their families.
5. Happy people LISTEN
The favourite people of ATCA 5000 distinguished members appear to be very good listeners. They don’t rush to offer judgment or help and they might not even tell their colleagues that they know exactly how they feel – especially if they don’t! They just listen, openly without any assumptions. This gift-of-listening that they give to their friends and work colleagues also seems to contribute to their own happiness. It would appear that the best thing we can all do to enrich our own life and our relationships is to listen more closely and to be attentive more often. Taking the time to listen helps us also to learn and to evolve our own understanding of this world and the people around us. It keeps our mind open to wisdom and to new perspectives at all times. When we focus on deep listening, we automatically take our own ego out of the equation and are less likely to be hurt or offended by what we hear.
6. Happy people BELIEVE IN SOMETHING and they LET GO OF CONTROL
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