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Here's a very interesting article.

Excerpt:


Heads up ladies! Sex and the smartphone do not mix. It is not just the guys. Seems ladies are equally guilty of using our high tech in bed and paying less attention to the living, breathing creature next to us.

A recent study asked women what they would give up for a month and they reported they would rather give up sex than their smartphones. They also revealed some other shockers as well.

Almost 80 percent check their phones at least once per hour. Almost 50 percent have it on the nightstand while they sleep; five percent choose to have the phone in the bed with them. Three in four admit to texting while driving. Well over half do not neglect the phone during dinner, but over 70 percent say they are not addicted.

Then there’s the sex thing. Forty-eight percent of women report that they would rather give up sex for one month than their smartphone. The study was a joint venture by Real Simple and Huffington Post in which 3,583 women were asked about their smartphone habits. As if the sex thing was not bad enough, almost 40 percent admit to taking their phones into the restroom. Ladies, what has become of our manners? Not to mention our precious time. Has time become such a precious commodity that bathroom unmentionables have been invaded?

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Elysha Krupp wrote:

You thought that, between your school sex-ed classes and your own experiences (four, maybe five times at least?), you knew everything there was to know about sex. But somehow, the new American crossover Masters Of Sex (Channel 4) still has you glued to your TV, wondering what discoveries are in store next for Dr William Masters and Virginia Johnson. Why? Because the study of sex is, of course, endless.

Just in case you're aching for more sex-related info in between episodes, we've compiled this quick video to hold you through. Get ready to have your sex-saturated brain blown.

CLICK HERE for this fantastic and hilarious video clip. Have a great day!

Is There a 'Sperm Crisis' in Today's Young Men?

The bottom line from experts at a major fertility conference in London last week: A possible sperm crisis is afoot.

Shirley Wang explains on Lunch Break.

CLICK HERE to watch the video.

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According to The New York Times and The Wall Street Journal, American colleges are in crisis. This Sunday, both papers prominently featured pieces decrying the modernization of higher ed. At the NYT, there's hand-wringing over hook-up culture; the WSJ is worried about the death of the humanities. It's all very bleak—and familiar.

Kate Taylor takes a peek into the world of hook-ups at the University of Pennsylvania in "Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game, Too." The lengthy piece can be distilled to this—some women at Penn are choosing to "hook up" instead of seriously date, so that they have more time to focus on school and work. Taylor often refers to "A.," a "slim, pretty junior" at Penn, who rather bluntly discusses sex and her own ambitions:

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Mars or Venus?

The difference in men's and women's attitudes toward sex are often taken for granted. Men want sex, women want commitment; men look for attractive mates and women go after social status.

But not all psychologists are on board with these gender-essentialist statements.

In a new review, University of Michigan psychologist Terri Conley and colleagues sift through psychology studies and find gender differences aren't always as black-and-white (or pink-and-blue) as they seem. Here are six gender differences that may not be innate after all.


Men Think About Sex More Than Women Do

The cliché that men think about sex every seven seconds is not true. And while it's true that men think about sex more often than women do, they also think about other bodily needs, such as food and sleep, more than women do.

In a study published in 2011 in the Journal of Sex Research, psychologists asked research participants to record their thoughts throughout the day. They found that men pondered sex 18 times a day to a woman's 10 times a day, but men also thought about food and sleep proportionately more than women. That suggests sex doesn't hold as vaunted a position for men as you might expect.

CLICK HERE for Myth No. 2

As an educator, mother, blogger and citizen, I am deeply distressed about two moral issues currently plaguing our local scene. We must always remember that we are not in solitary existence. There must be a deep sense of accountability, responsibility and morality in what we say and do, especially publicly and even more in virtual space. Whatever we do privately is of course private. However, when what is private becomes public and challenges social mores, I believe the siren is wailing to tell us that the signs of dysfunctional and deviant values have reared its ugly heads in the real world, our country and the Asian region. Worse still, the mass media and online portals have jumped on the bandwagon  in the glorification, amplification and magnification of the scenario that directly challenges cultural, religious, moral, legal values/guidelines.

The setting for my rant is the disclosure of the sexual antics of a young Malaysian couple and their nonchalant stand about their behaviour, values and motives because I believe every person must be responsible in his/her actions because everything one says or does (especially in virtual reality) will eventually influence/affect his/her immediate circle being family and friends and the community in which he/she lives.

First of all, I wish to say that I am not judging anyone here but I am very concerned about the way the whole situation has been blown out of proportion. Most importantly, I am very appalled at how the MSM delights in reporting what the couple says about the situation because ultimately, such airing may affect the values, perceptions and perspectives of wider society (especially the youth) in an IT-savvy society. Of course we all know that any story on sexual deviance sells. However, to splash a photograph of the girl's face on the front page knowing full well that she may be kicked out of the home if conditions are not met is certainly a possible indication at how corporate social responsibility may be at stake in the pursuit of readership!!!

Corporate Social Responsibility (CSR) policy functions as a built-in, self-regulating mechanism whereby a business monitors and ensures its active compliance with the spirit of the law, ethical standards, and international norms. CSR is a process with the aim to embrace responsibility for the company's actions and encourage a positive impact through its activities on the environment, consumers, employees, communities, stakeholders and all other members of the public sphere who may also be considered as stakeholders. MORE HERE.

A sensible and educated person should also uphold social responsibility in his/her life to recognize that personal behavior affects others and that one should ultimately be accountable to others, especially the family and the law, or actions/words said.

It is understandable that one who is not refined or educated may demonstrate inconsiderate/rude behavior and then to displace his/her responsibility to others by blaming the external environment for pushing them to such acts of deviance.

Any sensible person with a right mind would try to affect others positively to make the world (or at least the community in which he/she lives) a better place.

The actors of the social scene are no ordinary persons but two young adults who have gone through tertiary education - an ASEAN scholar who has yet to graduate from the law faculty and the other who graduated from a local public university.

Consider the immeasurable trail of damage left behind by their disclosures - the cumulative effects of their behavior/public statements on:

a) their parents
b) their immediate family members and relatives
c) their other agents of socialization who would be wondering where they went wrong with them - e.g. teachers, religious leaders, community leaders, neighbours etc.

Did they show any consideration for their loved ones and friends?

Did they show any concern and/or awareness of how what they did/said impacted others and affected the social ambiance and reputation of the young adults of our country from those who are not Malaysians?

Tragically, I doubt they even realize the effect of what they did and said realistically lasts much longer than the acts portrayed in their postings/interviews.

Their perspectives centres on 'I' and 'We'.

Did they consider or care about the impression that others have on them both on a short-term or long-term basis on their:

a) familial and social relationships - How would their parents, siblings, relatives and friends care and relate to them knowing that they not share their frame of reference in this issue?
Do they care that they have actually hurt themselves when they hurt their loved ones?
b) social standing - How can they appear anywhere publicly in full knowledge that many might have seen their intimate physical details?
c) career path - What would be in the minds of would-be employers who might be questioning their value systems? Worse still, there could be those who might take advantage of them e.g. in the endorsement of certain types of toys or demanding certain favours etc.
b) business opportunities - What would potential business associates think of them, their value system and integrity or morality etc?

Consider this analogy. If one throws rubbish indiscriminately anywhere and anytime, one pollutes the community in which one lives and ultimately, boomerangs back to the irresponsible one.

Honestly, I believe we all have but one life and it is up to us whether we make it count or only make it count for OURSELVES.

Imagine what kind of society we would have if everyone did not uphold socially acceptable values, customs, expectations etc and only concentrated on making money regardless of the means.

Then, narcissistic beings or a narcissistic society would NOT care because they do not realize:

• how everything we do matters because it affects all around us
• how the doing results in the 'having' because it will contribute to the baggage one will carry forever. E.g. how will they justify their actions to their children in future?
• the need to do their part to build a better society/world INSTEAD of desensitizing other youths to the importance of social conformity to maintain social order and throw them into a state of normlessness
• etc....

I am deeply saddened. My heart goes out to their parents who must be hurting so badly inside. Is there no love and respect left for themselves as young people? Is there complete disregard for conformity in the pursuit of individualism??? May there be people around them who can counsel, lead and guide them to practise individual social responsibility. You can read more about Individual Social Responsibility HERE.

The way the media has gone to town with this issue is sickening. What is their real motive? Can it be perceived as glorification, amplification and magnification of deviance?

Is such sexual deviance newsworthy? Where is their corporate social responsibility? What sort of genuine news values are present in the situation that merited such airing by so many types of media? In this way, they are indirectly telling them and others that such deviant acts are acceptable because it can bring you fame, name and that it is all part of the game of life! :-(

Are they endorsing what they did? Social responsibility can never be cultivated by promoting anything that directly goes against our value, legal and moral system such as lewd and lascivious content. Yes, I know it is a scene where the two individuals were exercising their personal choices in their acts but making them public and then to be elevated for public scrutiny via air space or articles in the MSM is sending another message to the wider society, particularly the younger set.

In an age where one can:

• access unsavoury websites with the click of the mouse
• upload anything anywhere anytime also with the click of the mouse
• where one can snap pics or record scenes anytime and anywhere and post it publicly also with the click of the mouse....

surely the media can play its role by sending a more responsible message to society and be a CSR citizen!

Think about the following scandals:

• Savile BBC case
• Sandusky football sexual abuse case
• Lance Armstrong doping revelations etc
• Tiger Woods
• Bill Clinton and the flak he received for the Lewinsky case
• Arnold-Schwarzenegger
• etc and of course - our own home-grown political sex scandals

Think about:

a) how the local and foreign media reported it
b) how the guilty ones reacted when interviewed:

Did they CELEBRATE their acts?
Were they smiling from ear to ear?
Did they express remorse for what they did?
Did they say that others are 'sexually repressed'?

My bone of contention is not what they do privately but publicly and also how the situation was reported.
Justified?

Compare it with reports on the Savile Scandal HERE. The family was so ashamed that they even removed Savile's tombstone and his is now an unmarked grave. That is the DEPTH of the remorse, sadness and despair felt by the family members as a result of Savile's actions.

Compare it with reports on the local issue HERE, particularly by the MSM.

I am sure many cannot fathom the rationale, justification or reactions the couple has displayed nor can many comprehend why they can still be smiling when filmed or photographed in the post-exposure period. Neither can I.

There are many  theories for deviance including:

I. Rational choice theory including:

• classical deterrence theory 
• control theory
• routine activities theory.

II. Structural-functional theories such as:

• Classic functionalism
• Social Disorganization Theory
• Anomie Theory

III. Symbolic interactionalist theories including:

• Classic symbolic interactionist theory
• Differential Association theory
• Neutralization theory
• Labeling theory

IV. Conflict theories such as:

• Marxian Theory
• Group Conflict Theory
• Feminist Theory.

You can read more about them HERE and HERE.

Whatever the case, I am quite sure that it is highly probable that there could be a myriad of reasons why they did what they did and that those who know them cannot understand the motives either. May they have closure on this issue and move on to a better life instead of capitalizing on this scenario for mercenary purposes.

One of the first topics I learnt as an undergraduate in journalism class was news values. Consider the following points by Wikipedia which I have posted at the end of this post. I just hope that the media can seriously consider their corporate social responsibility role in such situations and report such incidents in such a way that it deters rather than encourages such forms of behaviour.

All in all, we can clearly see the pervasive influence of the internet on not only the way we communicate but also on our value system. What sort of society do we have when some are proud of deviance and others glorify it? Where are we heading? Is society regressing? Not sure? Check out THIS LINK and another one HERE and HERE. Make your own conclusions and if possible, please share your views. Thanks.

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News Values - from Wikipedia

News values, sometimes called news criteria, determine how much prominence a news story is given by a media outlet, and the attention it is given by the audience. A. Boyd states that: "News journalism has a broadly agreed set of values, often referred to as 'newsworthiness'..."News values are not universal and can vary widely between different cultures. In Western practice, decisions on the selection and prioritization of news are made by editors on the basis of their experience and intuition, although analysis by J. Galtung and M. Ruge showed that several factors are consistently applied across a range of news organizations.

Conditions for News
 

1. Frequency: Events that occur suddenly and fit well with the news organization's schedule are more likely to be reported than those that occur gradually or at inconvenient times of day or night. Long-term trends are not likely to receive much coverage.
2. Negativity: Bad news is more newsworthy than good news.
3. Unexpectedness: If an event is out of the ordinary it will have a greater effect than something that is an everyday occurrence.
4. Unambiguity: Events whose implications are clear make for better copy than those that are open to more than one interpretation, or where any understanding of the implications depends on first understanding the complex background in which the events take place.
5. Personalization: Events that can be portrayed as the actions of individuals will be more attractive than one in which there is no such "human interest."
6. Meaningfulness: This relates to the sense of identification the audience has with the topic. "Cultural proximity" is a factor here -- stories concerned with people who speak the same language, look the same, and share the preoccupations as the audience receive more coverage than those concerned with people who speak different languages, look different and have different preoccupations.
7. Reference to elite nations: Stories concerned with global powers receive more attention than those concerned with less influential nations.
8. Reference to elite persons: Stories concerned with the rich, powerful, famous and infamous get more coverage.
9. Conflict: Opposition of people or forces resulting in a dramatic effect. Stories with conflict are often quite newsworthy.
10. Consonance: Stories that fit with the media's expectations receive more coverage than those that defy them (and for which they are thus unprepared). Note this appears to conflict with unexpectedness above. However, consonance really refers to the media's readiness to report an item.
11. Continuity: A story that is already in the news gathers a kind of inertia. This is partly because the media organizations are already in place to report the story, and partly because previous reportage may have made the story more accessible to the public (making it less ambiguous).
12. Composition: Stories must compete with one another for space in the media. For instance, editors may seek to provide a balance of different types of coverage, so that if there is an excess of foreign news for instance, the least important foreign story may have to make way for an item concerned with the domestic news. In this way the prominence given to a story depends not only on its own news values but also on those of competing stories. (Galtung and Ruge, 1965)
13. Competition: Commercial or professional competition between media may lead journalists to endorse the news value given to a story by a rival.
14. Co-optation: A story that is only marginally newsworthy in its own right may be covered if it is related to a major running story.
15. Prefabrication: A story that is marginal in news terms but written and available may be selected ahead of a much more newsworthy story that must be researched and written from the ground up.
16. Predictability: An event is more likely to be covered if it has been pre-scheduled. (Bell, 1991)
17. Time constraints: Traditional news media such as radio, television and daily newspapers have strict deadlines and a short production cycle, which selects for items that can be researched and covered quickly.
18. Logistics: Although eased by the availability of global communications even from remote regions, the ability to deploy and control production and reporting staff, and functionality of technical resources can determine whether a story is covered. (Schlesinger, 1987)