So I'm talking to a friend of mine and I'm asking him what he had been up to over the weekend. So you guys know... about a week prior to having this conversation, I had given him a great book about fear and positive thinking from one of my mentors.
My friend says, " I have a great story for you Elise!" and the story goes something like this...
My friend has a 4-year-old daughter and as any parent, he is very protective of her. He was at the park with his daughter and she was about to climb up a very high net climber. He immediately ran to her to stop her and say, "NO!! Don't go up there! It's too dangerous!!"
But then, just as he is about to talk to her, he remembered what he had learnt whilst reading the book. And instead of telling her no, he changed it to, " Be careful as you climb up. Watch your step ok? I'll be right here."
He then told me that she had climbed up the net climber and nothing had happened. She was safe, she was happy and there was no danger.
So what's the moral of the story?
A child does not see difficulties as adults do. Children think a lot more positive and with a better attitude than we do!
Why was it that my friend ran up to his daughter when she was going to climb up the net climber? Because as adults, we see the difficulties first. We go into panic mode without reason over the tiniest little things in life. His daughter did not see that. She just saw this fun climber and wanted to go up on it. It was not a difficulty; it was a fun challenge she wanted to do.
She went on it and nothing happened. She was safe, she was smiling.
Wouldn't it be great to be able to think like a child once in a while, when we are dealing with daily challenges? People like myself, Entrepreneurs, fall flat on the floor a lot of times! But guess what? We get up again!
I always tell people I'm like a bouncy punching boxing ball., you guys know the one I'm talking about! That little upright boxing punching ball that you can punch as hard as you want but it always bounces back up!! That punching ball has a spring that keeps it coming back up no matter what. It's always thinking positive, if you know what I mean.
That is the way I like to see life. Some people see the glass half empty,others see it half full and I see it FULL; half full of water and half full or air!!
It is all down to our way of thinking, and we can all learn to think more positively. Remember in part one, when I said you cannot change what you did 10 minutes ago, 1 minute ago, 10 seconds ago? Well you can't!
But what you CAN do is change what you do and how you think as of today, as of right now, this minute.
Think more like a child every day! And I do not mean act childish! I mean take the part of the children that have no fear, the part that sees everything as a fun challenge.
How many times as a kid did you fall off the bicycle whilst you were learning how to ride it? Quite a few times I assume... and did that stop you from getting on it again and again until you were able to ride it alone? Of course not!!
How many times as a kid did you cry because you hurt yourself when you were learning how to rollerblade? And how long did that cry last? 15 seconds? 20 secs? It was not long! Within 5 minutes you had a band-aid on and you were up trying again!
How many times did you attempt to get up when learning to walk after a fall? Thousands!!! You didn't stop trying because you couldn't walk the first time you tried to stand up!
Bottom line is this: Since we were babies, we've encountered challenges. But as we get older, we change the way we think and the way we react to those challenges.
Make today, the day that changes the rest of your life.
Make today the day that you take control of your life, your business, your relationship, your faith.... anything that you want!!
Write those goals down and start living again with a better attitude!
Make it a great day y'all!!
Written by Elise Quevedo
Elise is a Motivational Speaker and Life Coach who understands how easily it is to let people around you influence the way you think, behave and act. Personal Development is a must for anyone wanting to get to the next level. A positive mental attitude is something we can all work towards to help us achieve our goals. Visit her website at : http://kickassattitude.com
2 comments to THE SIZE OF YOUR GOAL DETERMINES THE SIZE OF YOUR LIFE
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Unknown Dear Tiger,
Thanks for the timely reminder :-). How right you are...the older we get, the more cautious we are in our dealings with people. Kids attack relationships with so much energy and favor and dream about fantastic ambitions but more importantly, they must grow spiritually and emotionally.
I am certain your boys are doing the same because of the wonderful parenting that you and your wife are doing.
May God bless you beautiful family always.
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Tiger Adults tend to be more careful and pessimistic because they have tasted bitterness and sadness before. Children have yet to learn anything because their world is still carefree.
If I remember, your 2nd child is 10. Try to capture his/her spirit at this age.
It's a wonderful feeling to see them grow spiritually.